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Hi everyone,

My dearest aunt has suffered with breast cancer for 9 years now.

SHe has been amazing and a rock

Recently she has taken a turn for the worst and she is not doing well.

She and my family are very much in denial. I am far away but trying to help.

the last week she has been very naseous. Can anyone please give me some tips on anything at all that helps nausea?

Because of the nausea she is not eating or drinking and I know that she is getting dehyrated.

She also cannot sleep more than a few hours a day.

Any helpful tips are appreciated.

Thanks :hug:

:hug:

she will probably need an rx. fenegren. i'll check the spelling in a sec.

when my brother was dying...it really helped.

see if she will try taking sips of pedialyte. they make it in popcycles too.

i am so sorry shelley.

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/d...r/a682284.html

of course i spelled it wrong...but here is info on it. the rx name...

was it in remission and has reoccurred?
or having tx that is causing nausea?

Has she been to Dr for reassessment?
Or she doesn't want to go or know??

No its been active the last 9 years but held at the same level.

Its been amazing that she has made 9 years. She has a great will to live.

THis afternoon we were able to get her better pain control Lortab and the doc also gave her an anti nausea med. Lucklily we have a cousin that is a doc.

We think she is not telling her oncologost the extent of the pain and nausea because she is afraid that this could be it.

We think her new treatment is causing the nausea and the pain. But she has not been eating or sleeping because of the pain.

She is just completley exhausted and likley dehydrated.

I told her to get some pedialyte, and the popsicles were a great idea.

Also recommended some peppermint tea and to get some ginger becasue I heard that helps too.

Thanks for your help.

Bumping up in case anyone has any more thoughts.

well.. either way she doesn't need to be in pain..

but then again my brother in law refused pain meds, he wanted to be coherent/lucid as long as possible and he did pretty good until the last few days.

Thanks Jo! I sure shook up the family today and took them to task.

Sent mom to the store to get all the stuff that helps nausea. My mom was freaking out saying she did not want to be the only sisiter left. I told her this was not about her and to go help her sister.

Called my aunts daughter and got her to call Dr cousin to get her prescriptions...got lortab and an anti nausea med. This should help her rest. She needs to sleep and get rehydrated and get some food in her. The daughter came around and was fine.

My aunt was mad at me, probably her husband too that is afraid to act against my aunts wishes. I hope with some rest and sleep she will feel better tomorrow and not be mad. I understand admitting that she was not feeling well and needed help might feel like this is going down hill. But everyone was overreacting and panicking and not thinking about my aunts comfort.

They all need to understand that ignorning the elephant in the room wont make it go away.

I tried to tell them I am not saying she is dying. She started new chemo drug and just feels awful. I tried to tell them for all we know its working and its why she feels bad. That either way this is a process and that during it whatever way it goes its important to communicate to doctor and make sure my aunt is comfortable.

I just dont get why from 3000 miles away I had to take charge and people cant use common sense. :mad:

Oh well I did the right thing but I will see if they are speaking to me tomorrow. Maybe they just hate it when I am right. :(

It's weird how some people react when things like this happen, but maybe they were taking the cue from her.
luckily with bil's situation we were all on the same page and no wife or ex wives or so around to confuse things.

your aunt
 

My mom past away in April. She had cancer for five years. She knew that the end was comming and talked with us about it quite openly. This helped her and us when the time really came. We knew and she knew that this was just the way it was.