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Stessing and I need to slow down

Hi all,

Ever since New Years Eve when I remembered where the will was that my husband made out, things have been a nightmare. I'm in limbo here and in the meantime my in-laws were scheming with lawyers right off the back. They are pretty slick and sneaky, to be honest. Please anyone help me calm myself down and slow down these racing thoughts. I have businss to attend tomorrow that cannot be put off and I need my sleep.

befuddled2

I'm on or anyway around and about right now...

Not sure what to say, how to help, but I'm here. :hug:

~ waves ~

I hope you can sleep tonight Barbara.
It is very restorative.
Hope that your day goes well tomorrow.
bizi

Sometimes i say this... sometimes in a prayer, sometimes in meditation, even a mantra to repeat and replace anxious obsession. So i offer this to you, tonight, and as you move forward in this troubled time...

God grant you:

The Serenity to accept the things you cannot change
The Courage to change the things you can
And the Wisdom to know the difference

So let it be.

:Heart:

~ waves ~

Dear Befuddled,

My hubby and his siblings got into a big mess about inheritance when his father died a couple of years ago.

He stopped talking to a few of them because he got too upset. He figured out that they were deliberately pushing his buttons.

He hired a lawyer and let the lawyer handle everything. The lawyer is very nice and polite and never pushes buttons.

Do you have activities that can calm you? Or that can at least bring you into a less racing state?

I hope that you sleep.

M.

Thank all,

I prayed over and over last night till I went to sleep and that is how I did finally calm down and go to sleep. I am much calmer today. Now today is the day I get things done to my apartment. I have a big mess in it now.

befuddled2

((((((Barbara)))))),

http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/11/11_2_104.gif Here's a gift of words and thoughts for you to start the new year with:

from: http://www.stefanierenee.net/

Quote:

i'm going to put together my hopes, my wishes for 2008 but just not yet.

i'm going to put together my mondo beyondo list for 2008 but just not yet.

what i am going to put out there right now is to stop living in fear ~ fear about everything
and nothing. stop the fear as much as possible.

it gets me a whole lot of disappointment in myself and life.

it stops here baby

no fear 2008!

Read these and you'll understand:
Mondo-Beyondo - Part 1 - http://www.superherodesigns.com/jour...es/000452.html
Mondo-Beyondo - Part 2 - http://www.superherodesigns.com/jour...es/000778.html

http://www.kerismith.com/blog/archives/000162.html

BIG HUGS (and blessings and love) for the New Year.

Barb :hug:

I loved it all,and truly no more fears there exhausting in a very wrong
way. :eek::eek: go away fears we don't need or believe in you..But
it wouldn't hurt to look both ways while crossing the street,because
we are all valuable in so many ways...:):)Sue

Quote:

Originally Posted by shiney sue (Post 183236)

You "cashew" :hug: :D

((((((Sue))))))

It's a whole process. It isn't just that you say "OK, I'm not afraid of anything". You've also got to put out your INTENTIONS for what you DO WANT in your life (that's the Mondo Beyondo list part).

I'm still laughing :hug: Thanks for making me smile today. BIG HUGS.

Barb

Trigger!! Trigger!!

Mondo Beyondo -- 2008

from: http://www.superherodesigns.com/jour...s/2008_01.html

Quote:

The new year is always an exciting time for me. I love wiping the slate clean, buying a new calendar and beginning again. It is such a ripe time for ritual, so if you you would like to join me in one, I would like to invite you to be part of Mondo Beyondo 2008...

The surest way to start fresh and move forward is to be at peace with what came before. You might have had an incredible year, a dull year, or a truly difficult year. Whatever happened, your aim is to celebrate what there is to celebrate about it and grieve what there is to grieve...

Are you with me people?

My challenge for you is to answer the following questions and declare 2007 complete. Rituals can often be even more powerful when others can witness you. You are welcome to do this exercise privately, but I suggest sharing with a friend and/or posting your lists here. You are in good, safe company. (Feel free to post anonymously)

1. What do you want to acknowledge yourself for in regard to 2007?
(What did you create? What challenges did you face with courage and strength? What promises did you keep to yourself? What brave choices did you make? What are you proud of?)

2. What is there to grieve about 2007?
(What was disappointing? What was scary? What was hard? What can you forgive yourself for?)

3. What else do you need to say about the year to declare it complete?

Okay, the next step is to say out loud, "I declare 2007 complete!" How do you feel? If you don't feel quite right, there might be one more thing to say...

The final step is to consider your primary focus for the year to come. What is your primary intention or theme for 2008? Is it the year of joy? the year of self-care? the year of partnership?
Stand up and say it proud, "2008 is my year of...."

(Mondo Beyondo Part Two: Where are you going? is coming soon)
"The world is round and the place which may seem like the end may also be the beginning." -George Baker

I've got a HUGE problem with initiative -- just gettings things started -- since my Mom died (1983) ... since my ex-husband died (1996) ... since my son went to prison AGAIN (1997). And the big kick-to-the-curb ... since I retired in 2001 -- not my choice, but, I felt I had no choice at the time.

I've been getting a little bit more depressed every year. A little more detached every year. A little worse in maintaining my life every year.

But, still -- realizing the HUGE accomplishment that THE DOCTOR and I achieved from 1979 to 1984 in getting me to stop trying to kill myself. I HAVE STOPPED :D

I've spent so much of my life depressed and isolated and protecting myself from ever getting hurt again as much as my Brother hurt me by killing himself .. that I've gotten myself into a place that I don't like very much -- don't like at all.

This Mondo Beyond "Thing" is the first thing that I've seen in years -- decades -- that's what I've been looking for -- a way to accomplish the major attitude shift that I need to accomplish in order to live the rest of my life.

Such a simple thing. Just a different viewpoint on my life. But, such a lovely tradition to start NOW. Forgive myself for last year (and last year, and last year, and last year) and promise myself to do better. What a NICE thought :hug:

I care about you guys so much. You've given me a safe, supportive place to be and to go. I'm able to offer support back (which, if you knew my earlier history, after I lost my Brother) is a HUGE DEAL.

Us Bipolar-ers and Borderline Personality Disorder-ers (spellings) are very tightly connected. Wouldn't surprise me a bit to find out that we're all related way back in the tree somewhere :D But, BIGGEST of all, we're all slogging along on a very similar journey. Trying to overcome years of being stomped on and trying to find a place to fit. And trying to accept what we've become.

This whole Mondo Beyond list thing is such a simple idea. So easy to think about. And then start. And has such potential for making such a a huge difference.

And yet, what it is is ACCEPTANCE. Such a simple concept. Yet, such a beautiful gift.

HUGS for the room. This is gonna be a good year for all of us:
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Barb http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v9...ding-hands.gif