No pictures please
 

When my ex-husband 1st passed I dug up a few pictures I have of him to look at and to post on his Guestbook. Now though I can not bear the thought of seeing a picture of him as it will make me cry. Some think because a person is divorced that the one who survives the other one doesn't have feelings for their ex. You would be surprised at the type of response like that I have gotten in my time of grief. I am here to say that it does hurt and it hurts like hell. I had a history with my ex, I lived with him day in and day out for over 12 years. We were not divorced that long. He was a tortoured soul to do the things he did to me but I know in my heart that God has forgiven him and he is in heaven. One of these days I will feel comfortable enough to look at the pictures I have of my husband again like I felt after a long while when my mom passed. For now though, no pictures please.

befuddled2

WEll I am sorry that you are hurting....
bizi

Dear Befuddled,

You are allowed to feel how ever you feel. These are your feelings. Embrace them. And you can ignore those people (including me!) that try to give you advice about how to deal with his passing.

Each case of divorce is different and I understand expecially about the part that you were divorced fairly recently.

I remember getting a lot of mean advice right after my divorce. A few of my friends thought that I was not following their version of the "rules" of how a person should behave.

And the truth is that we all know that there are no rules about how people should behave when they are grieving. And whatever a person is feeling is valid and right for them.

Mari

B
 

Honey you do whatever you feel,no pictures for now,then so be it. Hugs Sue

Sending lots of :hug: and an angel to guide you through this difficult
time.

You are in my prayers.

Nikko:hug:

Thank you all. I went to Sunday school today, to visit my Uncle, and then shopping. Sundays use to be very bad lonely days for me but these past 2 Sundays they have been so much nicer. I hope to go visit one of my old neighbors in about 1 1/2 hours that only lives about 3 blocks away. We'll talk about my husband like we did the last time. It helps me to do that.

befuddled2