need advice
 

i went into chat here around 8 tonight
there was a person named manda in there i tryed for 2 hours to get her to call 911. me and another neuro pal gave her our email and were instant messaging her like a confrence chat with all 3 of us. she finaly called 911 but then logged off the comp and i dont know what happened. i dont know what to do when things like this come up. i am really upset and i hope 911 got there. she was complaining of racing heart and feeling dizzy hard to breath then she threw up blood and felt really sleepy. i am really sad. and praying 911 got there and that she is okay she told me she was 13. i have a 13 year old girl.
what is one supose to do when they come across something like this in the chats? and by the way two others came in the chats but left in less then five mins.. dose anyone know of a new member called manda here she said she was new and i am going to look in the members list for her. and i got her email so i will be emailing her to see if she is okay. her mom was at work.I am just praying 911 got there and she is getting some help and doctors care now.
but any advice as to what to do would be very helpfull to me. i know i should of asked where she lived and maybe tryed to get address. but can one out of state call 911 for another who needs help???? how dose that work? any kind of advicee would be great. maybe i should be posting this in social chat or the feed back forum but all you here are my friends and smart ones at that so here i am.
THANK YOU MUCH!!!
Peace
BMW

All you can really do is just what you did. Tell the person to call for help.

She didn't call her mother or ask a friend or neighbor for help??

I'm sorry that this incident has upset you, but from my own perspective I think you did the right thing under the circumstances, just as Jo55 has said.

It's so hard when some-one puts us under emotional pressure like this lass has done to you. She needed help and you gave it! There is nothing more that you could have done BMW, but beware of your own emotions. Try not to get too involved, as hard as this might seem when some-one is giving you this sort of information.

I was a registered Nurse for 40 years and I have only just retired in the past few months, so I have an idea of how you might be feeling, having dealt with 'phone calls of a similar nature for many years.

You did good BMW. :hug: If it ever happens again, or something similar happens, give out the 911 number just as you did, and suggest the person ring it staright away.

i found a post by manda ... http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/thread44852.html
i dont know if she was just playing around or not cus the email she gave me
worked fine last night but today i am getting failure to deliever. so i will just pray if she truely need help that she called 911 like i had told her to do every 2 minutes for almost 3 hours and if she was just palying around i hope she dosent do it again

((((((((((BMW)))))))))))) thanks so much for caring :hug:

you did everything you could...and then some......so try not to worry. there really is no way we can know for sure when members are truly in crisis and so by talking with her and urging 911 you did the right thing. Hopefully her parents were able to help too if there was an emergency.

if ever there is something in chat that anyone thinks needs our attention, please dont hesitate to PM us and if we are online we will try to help

another big :hug: for you BMW

well i guess it is better to play it safe and i didnt meen to sound like the other 2 that came into chat just left they tryed to encourage her to call mom or 911 also. they just couldnt hang around that long. and i thank them too.
Peace
BMW
thanks for the hugs I needed them, May is the month my dad died when I was a kid and this last night just brought it back .:( but i am okay i just need some sleep . and Manda I hope you are doing well. :hug:

I was one of the others trying to help some but I wondered if she was playing around too. I did try to help some and have her call her Mom or a friend's Mom or something. I did have to go though after a short while as I can't sit that long. Hope she's not just playing around and if she isn't, I hope she gets the help she needs. She did say it had been going on for four months. That's a long time:( if that's true. And running a fever up to 105 degrees. IDK:confused:

ah haa yes I remeber you and thanks you and another were tryin to help I think my chain was pulled ...but none the less I would do it again cus I care like most all of us here.Really Kitt thanks for tryin to help much appreciation from me! :hug:... now moving on to other things :)
Peace BMW

Manda appears to be a new member since 4/30 and she stated in one post she was from CT and is 14 with heart and other health issues. She has only posted 4 times. I agree with the others that you handled the chat well. We do what we can, give them tools, but unless you are there, there is nothing more you can do --really. And 911 is one of the best answers you can give in those circumstances.

I think you did very well in this situation as well. I have been in a similar situation but it was on the phone at my workplace to someone who was 3000 miles away who was very distressed and making serious threats against herself.

I did a similar thing to you and tried to get her to call emergency services or an on call counsellor - we have "Lifeline" here in Australia who offer crisis assistance on the phone.

I never knew what happened to her as I never heard from her again.

Well done.

Regards,
Rosco.