update my sister Madeline
 

well,
dont recall what I updated last...although my broinlaw has been talking to her dr..and dr mentioned 3-6months....(weeks ago) she doesnt know the time frame he mentioned...she doesnt want to know.

talked to my brother in law today, it was touching I let him know I and hubby are here for him and his family...that he is more a brother to me than inlaw...as when they were dating I was 10 or younger..and used to climb on him..get shoulder rides, and such....younger sis and I used to bother him to pieces I am sure....reminded him of that..hehe

we talked a while, he was saying she is pretty lathargic at times, which it is becoming tough for him realizing it might be closer each day....

well my nieces boyfriend, asked them for their daughters hand in marriage the other day...then asked my niece to marry him....they are planning quickly..a wedding for Nov 22nd or 29th...in hopes for my sister to be there at her daughters wedding.....(something she keeps saying she would miss the most....to not see either daughters wedding...)

hoping and praying that her day isnt called before those dates....help me...to pray she is strong enough..and that she isnt in too much pain over these next few months....

she is in pain, liver painful, think she is on strong meds for it....so maybe the lethargy stuff is somewhat the meds...so hard to live this far away....

my best friend that I hardly get to talk to...shame right in town here...but anyhow just talked to her...she mentioned she felt she didnt have enough time with her mom before cancer took her mom....her mom was strong and didnt talk much about it...
she told me cancer when it gets to liver can become quick...she suggested if my heart is wanting it...to get down there prewedding..time...and visit...even if take the long trip one day...spend the night and part of a day..and travel back...if it needs to be quick...

thinking of it, gotta talk to hubby...but maybe on a Tuesday I could head down with baby..maybe my younger sister could go too...and get down for a night or two....(hard as we both have five kids...) but I may want to find a way to make it work.....we will see..

otherwise either date, in november we are going to find a way to get down for the wedding.....

hugss all thanks for your support..and if still reading my rambling..thanks..hugssssss, sarah

Sarah, your post brought tears to my eyes. I'm so sorry you're going through this pain....I know what it's like to lose a sister.

I'd do whatever it took to spend as much time with her now as I could. I know it's hard with kids, jobs, hectic lives, etc. We always think "I'll do it tomorrow".

I'd ask for help with the kids.....can someone take care of them for a couple of days...maybe Grandma or a combination of DH and Grandma? I'd ask for some time off from work (maybe they will have compassion and give you a couple of free days). We don't know what will be offered until we ask....and the worst they can say is "no" so we have to start over again...:rolleyes:

I'm not trying to be pushy...I just know that I wish I had spent more time with my sister while she was here. She wouldn't have known the difference...but I do.

You're in my prayers, hon. I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. :hug:

hugs and prayers on the way Sarah. I think you should make the time
to see your big sis. I know its hard with the little ones....I hope it
can be worked out. Praying for painfree days for your dear sister.:hug:

OH Sarah~ I was so afraid to read your post. I have been wondering about Madeline and am so sorry that her battle has been so hard. I agree that if it's at all possible, you would value every second of time spent w/her. When my Mother was in her final wks, I just soaked up every word she said and tried to ingrain it into my mind and heart.

Hopefully, you can work something out for a visit.

Please know that I am truly sorry and that I will continue to keep Madeline in my prayers. I wish I could say something really smart and comforting, but I just want you to know that I am thinking of you and your family.

Bless your sister and keep her free from pain, Oh Lord....

Thanks for the update, Sarah, I was just wondering if you had news. This is hard for you and I appreciate your taking the time to keep us updated. You know I'm down here near Madeline, if there is something I can do, please don't hesitate to let me know.

I'm praying for all of you still and will continue to do so. ><>

Praying that you find a way to spend some time with sis. Also praying that her pain can be controlled.

Sarah, thanks for updating. There is no way of knowing when the time will come, that is something only God knows. But I think you should do what's in your heart and see your sister if you feel you need to. Everything else will work it's way out, it always does.

I am praying for time with her family and days of less pain. :hug:

Thanks all so very much :)

We will be driving the long drive in November for my neices wedding...but thinking of if there is a way to go down sooner for few days..even an overnight.....long trip but would be worth it...

yes Dh and grandma could do the kids...and work I can take off unpaid if I would like most anytime if I get things covered ok....so no problems there.

Anyhow, going to talk with hubby about idea..of bringing little Maddie
Maria Madeline down..to see auntie Madeline....between now and the wedding date end of november....

hugsss and thanks,sarah

Sarah you know you and all your loved ones are deep in my prayers, I hope you and younger sis are able to work that out for a visit, prayers :hug: and love

Sarah, just wanted to add my prayers to the others. I hope you are able to go see her. Taking your little one sounds like a great idea.