feel like im going mad
 

hi everyone my husband suffers post concussion syndrome and i am his carer.I am finding it extremely difficult to cope with his moods sometimes he will call me names and tell people im thick .He also only eats spicy food now and will ask for food and then when i bring it to him he will say he doesnt want it .Is there anyone out there that is going through similiar experiences ?I know he cant help it and i love him dearly but he has become so obbsesive and controlling woth things i just dont know what to do .HEEEELLLPPPP ALI

Its hard when someone you loves seems full of venom. :hug:

My mother had polio growing up, and we believe it affected her brain. She really doesnt have the ability to censor herself like most do. She will blurt out really rude things in the grocery store at complete strangers. She has hurled a canned ham at a man she swears was trying to hit on her. A constant in her life is that she feels most men are after her, or want her. Its really not true. When I was down taking care of her after a painful knee replacement, she said some of the most hateful things to date. She told me I was fat, and was horrible looking. That I was a horrible daughter, and spit venom asking why I bothered to come down. All I did was stick my hoytie toytie ways in her face. She had NO ONE else, as the rest of the family are exhausted by her. I stuck it out, and as she came off the pain meds, and her pain level decreased, and her mobility increased, she calmed back into a more normal level of nasty.

Have the MDs given you any hope of recovery? are they telling you this is as good as it gets? Was he like this before the incident? Are you safe? If he is violent then you will have no choice but to seek help. It is not worth your life, or the loss of an eye to deal with someone who cannot control themselves.

Please speak to his MD. Perhaps they can send in home health care folks to help you with some of his care. On the days they are there, GET OUT! go to a movie, go to get your nails done, go for a ride in the car, and listen to music. If his MD suggests that this is as good as it gets, perhaps there are medications that can help calm him.

Im so sorry that you are having to go through this. its so hard to deal with a loved one that is aggressive.

Are there care giver support groups in your area? Speak to your pastor, and ask them to help you find some.

Ali
you may also want to ask on the PCS forum as those dealing with it may have further insight for you
http://neurotalk.psychcentral.com/forum92.html

so sorry you and your husband are going through this:hug:

Ali, so sorry to hear this. Dej asked some great questions and I hope you come back on and keep talking to members here. This is a great place to vent your anger and frustrations. :hug: