Why? How can this happen? my friend is sick.
 

I am in total shock. My 46 year old friend was rushed to the ER. She was having clear sx of a stroke. She is vegan, organic, runs, is as healthy as a horse. Doesnt smoke, drink or eat processed foods. no family history. Takes excellent care of herself. Her hair is shiney and bright, and her skin is like cream. Blemish free. Sweet kind, and always in voluteer mode.

The stroke is massive! its affected more than 80% of her brain. She had diarrhea in the ambulance, and they did a test and it tested positive for blood, so they couldnt use the TPA or clot busting drugs. She has the best of the best insurance, so no treatment will be denied, or questioned. its all just given. Her brain has continued to swell all day. An hour ago they rushed her into surgery to removed 1/3 of her skull so the brain has room to expand as it swells. After a stroke the brain can swell for 3 to 5 days.

My crush is just the WHY?! Healthy, strong, young, no history, no risks. no birth control pills, doesnt smoke...blah blah...clean clean living. Is this what clean living gets you? We struggle so hard with MS and all the sx and BS that goes with it, and then you see a strong healthy woman one step from life support at 46! how does this happen.

Can someone help me make sense of my grief? I feel blindsided. You sort of expect this from sickly friends, but when your healthy friends start dropping, you have to start asking questions.


WHY!!!! :confused::Red eyes::Sob:

I don't know why, Dej, but I hear your fear and sadness and am sending you my love and hugs..:hug:

A prayer for your friend to heal.

same here, Dej. :(

Sending up a prayer for your friend. :hug: Maybe her clean living will help her to beat this and heal quickly. :hug:

So sorry to hear this, Dejibo. I have no answers.....just prayers. :hug:

My close friend had a large brain bleed three years ago Mothers Day (she was 55). Same thing--healthy weight, good diet, no smoking or drinking, yada yada.

Her doctors all agreed that the fact that she WAS in such good physical shape was definitely a factor in her recovery. And she did recover.

Dejibo, I'm praying for your friend now! :hug: I have read of totally healthy runners having heart attacks and strokes. It doesn't make sense, but hopefully her chance of full recovery is greater!

i'm so sorry for your friend dejibo. what a terrible thing.
only God can say why bad things happen to good people.

i'm saying fervent prayers for your friend.
and (((to you))).

Hi Dejibo,
I am sorry to hear about your friend. How terrible. The only thing that comes to my mind, is that there are some people who are born with a weakness.

Sometimes it is a weak brain vein, or main artery. An aneurism somewhere. Some are born with heart defects, yet seem totally healthy too.

We don't know what goes on in our bodies from birth. Living well sometimes helps prolong the worst from happening, or helps the person recover. Other times a normal, healthy appearing kid, can be running track and have a quick bad ending.

It is shocking for the family and friends when this happens. I hope your friend recovers without damage.

She survived the surgery to removed 1/3 of her skull to allow the brain room to swell. She is trying to talk, but upset that no ones understands what she is trying to say.

Thank you for the hugs, and prayers, and well wishes. I am trying to be positive that at her age, she has a better chance of fighting this thing, than if she was 70 or 80 and this happened.

thanks :hug: