Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy (RSD and CRPS) Reflex Sympathetic Dystrophy (Complex Regional Pain Syndromes Type I) and Causalgia (Complex Regional Pain Syndromes Type II)(RSD and CRPS)


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Old 05-11-2013, 04:08 PM #1
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Default Mother's day Gift for RSD Mother.

Ok, all of my tradition ideas of finding a gift for my giftfriend for Mother's day is out the door. Her mother is allergic to flowers, her and her daughter can not have candy, she has problems with Jewelry allergies and RSD issues wearing jewelry, and I can not buy clothing because of her RSD.

Also she is now suffering from asthma attacks, so going out to dinner is a no go.

I decided to go directly to her and ask her and she feels that she does not deserve a gift from me since we only been dating a few months.

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Old 05-11-2013, 04:27 PM #2
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I always love getting a book, or a CD I have wanted for a long time. Maybe? ginnie
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Can you cook? Maybe make dinner for them...

Or maybe rent a movie and have a movie night.

The book thing is good if you know her tastes...or maybe a gift from audible.com if she likes audiobooks (they have been such a blessing for me).

An amazon.com gift certificate is always good (that's how I got my ultrasound heat therapy machine and I love it...best birthday gift ever).

I know gift certificates don't seem very personal...but if you know they can get something they will like it might be better than trying to figure something out yourself.
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Unfortunately she does not let me come over when she is not feeling well, so I can not cook dinner. The book idea sounds better, but she also suffers from excessive migraines when reading.

Hmm. I wish I was a doctor so I can prescriber extra pain and allergy meds for Mother's day. lol
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I was a voracious reader before RSD...now I can't read hardly anything. It's the RSD...I just can't concentrate and my comprehension level has gone way down. So I've gone to audiobooks and I love them. I got a platinum membership to audible.com and that gets me 24 credits for a year. Last year I think I got about 30 books with those credits (some nice BOGO sales). They really are a life saver for me...especially on bad days when I can't do much. Yet another example of how I've had to adjust with the RSD...but that doesn't mean I have to lose out on anything.

I hope you guys have a great day.
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I would definitely second the Amazon/audiobook idea, especially if she likes to read but can't for migraines. I get migraines too, not from reading though and because I don't sleep well, books are my life at the moment. Also relaxing music would be nice AND romantic. I know trips can be tricky with CRPS, but the nicest thing my hubby has done for me recently has been to help me get out locally to a relaxing park with a lake - we're lucky it's very local and it might not be the answer for you, but it's the simplest and often free gestures that mean the most. Think what gives her any peace or removes her from the CRPS mindset.

Also when it comes to toiletries/beauty side of things there are "hypoallergenic" treats that might help - I cannot use many things but when you look hard enough there are plenty around (Lush is a shop I can't bear to be inside for the stench setting off migraines, but they do have some good products that have very few ingredients). I have a massage oil from The Body Shop too, and while you would think I couldn't bear being massaged (and I can't on my CRPS areas), having a massage in a tired/stressed area that isn't related to the CRPS helps big time, just encouraging touch where it isn't painful. For me it's my hands, they are not affected by CRPS and a hand massage is just bliss. An indian head massage and I'm anyone's lol. Very relaxing and intimate without pressuring the sexual side. Sweet almond oil tends to be good for sensitive skins - my sister is a massage therapist so I could ask her for more. I would avoid adding anything to a base/carrier oil mix if she has sensitive skin. The carrier oil alone should be fine.

Comfort essentials might help, maybe even a little kit with a bit of all suggestions in there. Something she does treat herself with food wise that's safe, something basic and minimal for pampering, a CD you've done yourself (keeps costs down and is personal), an Amazon voucher, and a teddy bear (I have a charity shop 70s bear that's about 3ft tall and pea green, I've called him Francis and yes, I'm 35 ). It's hard to suggest what she could use as it tends to be personal. For me, I did get jamas as a pressie, Baz found the softest pair of bottoms in Marks and Spencer that either of us have EVER felt, and they get washed and worn most of the time I'm in the house, I genuinely couldn't cope without them as I can't feel them once they're on. Baz normally daren't buy me things like that.

But beyond all that, it's more about the thought (not to sound cliche) than anything, we are not on a great income with both of us unemployed and on benefits, so I've had birthdays/Mother's Days/Valentine's Days where he's been unable to buy anything, but has done something so special I'll never forget it. A gift would mean nothing compared to the thought put into it. xx
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I second the book or CD or movie!!!
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I love music, too, and both my daughter and I find that those soothing nature sound things are nice. We like the ocean one the best, but there are many really lovely ones that remind me of beautiful places and help with the pain. I recently got a Jambox wireless portable speaker for both of us, and we both love it!

It's after Mother's Day now, but it's never too late for a loving gift. I hope things go well with you
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