Originally Posted by Ccm47

Angelina - it sounds like you are starting to look,at the situation differently, and I hope that helps to reduce your stress levels.

My daughter has serious depression, anxiety, and possibly borderline personality disorder - she is 17, and the doctors would give her that diagnosis at her age. And I'll tell you for sure that when she has a flair-up, I have a flair-up, so I can only imaging how hard it is for you.

I have also found that the "mindfulness" techniques that are often part of treatment for borderline personality disorder, often as part of Dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), have also helped me a lot with my pain. If I sit down and do mindfulness meditation I can lower my pain level quite a bit. My pain level will stay low so long as I stay still after that. Unfortunately, the pain comes back when I get up again, but this technique at least helps at night or in the evening when I can keep a low activity level for a few hours.

Originally Posted by Kevscar

maybe you'll be lucky like it too one day, it was the last thing I was expecting having split from my first wife 8 years previously after I had found out she had had an abortion without even telling me she was pregnant I had sworn nobody would ever get hold of me again.