moosey please don't take offense.
 

So first I will say no he is not her "DAD"...... however when someone istreating you like that you never stay "just for the kids". Ever. Having children see and experience dysfunctional relationships is not better than having them cope with the temporary upheaval and change of moving or having the other person move. Would you say that if you knew he was telling me to "**** off!!" Right in front of her(meaning my 8 yr old daughter)? Or yelling and I mean yelling at her for her asking him to turn the TV down when she was trying to sleep and had to get up for school the next day? But didn't yell like that at his 17 yr old son who sold a PS3 for pot pipes?
Even if he wasn't stepping WAY over the line and we both were just fighting all the time, just because we didn't love each other anymore, and there's no way to get that love back, you should never stay together. Just. For. The. Kids.
Any Child Physiatrist/Therapist or any Physiatrist/Therapist will tell you that. It will cause way more harm than good with allife the latent hostilities or passive aggressive comments and the fighting that would still occur if you tried to stay together for the kids.

Again I will say I mean no personal offense, it's just that is very bad advice to give anyone, made on the point of if it was her biological father, anyway my fiancé has been more of a father to her than her father ever will.

Now there is some very good progress on this whole situation. My fiancé apologized! ! And said that in no way was the Crps my fault, he had just been feeling like we'll he was completely powerless to help me and pressured to not only support us monetarily temporarily but now permanently, plus take care of the house work, and everything else. And what was worse is one he wasn't opening up about his stresses like he usually does but he's been having his own health issues and not telling me...he has very high blood pressure and also has GERD. Or Gastro-Esophageal Reflux Disease. And both have been giving him problems with the how extremely stressed out he's been. He said that he finally realized why he was getting so ****** off that at at the time he didn'treally mean a thing he said, it was just a nasty cycle. What happens is the more stressed out he gets the higher his blood pressure gets as well as it upsets his digestion with both those out of whack, he gets irritable, we bicker, which makes him more stressed and the cycle continues on and on until he just pops. Well he had decided that I didn't need anymore stresses and to just deal with what I needed to deal with. .....and that's where we ended up. ..
I've mostly forgiven him but we still have a long way to go. I'm looking for a local church or something that offers free counseling. I'm also trying to find one for our whole family with everything we've gone through lately.
Thank you all. Seriously.I mean it.I was at one of my lowest points. I think most of all I just needed to vent to rage it out! !

Glad to hear that you guys were able to have an honest, open conversation and that it has helped. Nothing is ever made better by keeping it all bottled up inside so I'm glad you guys are communicating now.

Know that this is a safe place for you to vent and get things off your chest. I know when I've been at my worst...even just typing everything out and laying it all out there helps me organize my thoughts and get to the root of the problem...whatever that may be.

Take care of yourself and good luck.

glad you vented
 

glad you vented,but very confused..I must be missing something..I feel like you acted me,for asking about your family,then you did what I suggested...TALK..Sorry..We all have issues hear,I feel you made mine worse ....I think I was better staying away from this site..Good luck

That's great to hear Songbird. While he's not looking at a condition like RSD/CRPS, he's scared just like you are in dealing with his own issues, on top of feeling powerless to help you. So glad you guys can be honest with each other.