Hey Roz,

I don't really know what to say other than well, if you go into cross dressing you are sorted!

I guess men find this whole RSD thing so hard to deal with because suddenly you aren't the housekeeper, personal diary, cook and general dogsbody. It sounds like peace and quiet and simple living would give you a chance to sort things out, but please do what Molly suggested so that you are protected from your husband doing stupid things. I know that from my parents - when they seperated Richard didn't want a divorce because it would have made him look bad, but because he had always kept everything in his name he was able to remortgage the house then sell it without any of us knowing, (whilst mum, Char and I lived in it) and he did the same with all his assets, he moved them all offshore so that when mum FINALLY lost it and divorced him he claimed there was nothing he could give her and even made her pay the court costs because all his assets were off shore and his girlfriend wasn't in the UK. We are still dealing with the fall out of that situation so I beg you to try and secure things so that the money is there. There are so many things that would make a huge difference to my quaility of life but he won't pay for any of it because if I wanted to be better I'd be fine.

So please please lodge that information with a lawyer/ court.

Oh and have something pink and frosty with an umbrella on me!! (and lots of alcohol)

Love ya babes

Frogga xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Very wise advise given above - no matter how it may turnout -
make sure the finances are secured.
meaning he can't remove moneys from accounts , or run up huge bills!

So sorry to hear what's happening. I could say "been there, done that." But mine was when I was young and healthy. I know how difficult it is to try and just get a few things accomplished in a day with RSD, so going through a separation and possible divorce must be overwheming. I do agree with others in that you should get legal counsel asap. People can get really weird & greedy in a divorce. I know people who have taken out second mortgages and their soon to be exes didn't know. I don't know how but they did! People have cleared out bank accounts, safe deposit boxes, etc. And these appeared to be nice people!
Please take care of yourself.
Linmarie

Roz, I am so sorry to hear you are going through this on top of your rsd, They have times when they just burn out it seems. I try to turn on the reverse neutering when i can which is not that ofter. It helps. But with each new failed treatment there is the anger it didnt "work" do you know what I mean... and not just from my husband but others. they become aggressive, bored or irritated Im not cured. Hang in there. Many times I thought Id be better off alone but Ive been very lucky mine has come around each time. we are in counseling though and I do belive that helps. Good luck and take care, Lisle

Hi,

I am doing fine. Everything is getting handled. Much Love, Roz