I don't know what is coming over people this year. went shopping with my sister yesterday. this is something i no longer do by myself. anway, while trying to navigate those "narrowing" isles people were so nasty and rude i was ready to blow up. i got pushed, bumped, run into by carts, and the jerks acted as if it was my fault !!! it got to the point where i was actually rude to one man who demanded i get out of his way so he could look at something on the shelf that i was looking at. i actually told him "well, why don't you just go and eat sh-- and die" . he looked at me and went to another isle. not very lady like, but i was not only exhausted but in so much pain just then i could have knocked his head off with my cast. the bumpers and pushers never once said excuse me or anything. you know, when i walk in front of someone i always smile and say excuse me, and if someone moves out of my way i thank them. it's common courtesy.

maybe people are just in a foul mood because of the high gas prices and lack of good deals at the store, and money is a little too tight this christmas. i don't know, but i am not looking forward to another outing like that one.

then, as i was leaving there was a gal in a manual wheelchair, struggling to push a cart ahead of her. no one from the store offered to help, and the greeter just looked at her and walked in the other direction. so, my sister and i helped get her to her car in the handicapped spot. i went back inside and had a not so nice chat with management. lol

what a day. i hope everyone else's was better

hugs and prayers

That is just terrible!

my little vent-
I get annoyed at the people talking on their cell phones constantly while doing holiday shopping.

like- what shall I get sos and so , do you think they will like this, oh this is blah blah...
just a constant jabbering and so loud too.
i really aim for the less crowded times - I don't care for crowds at all.


of course the other day i was going in a store and a lady was in her car yelling into her phone "she's in handcuffs!" and when i came out she was yelling "what did you do!" her window was down and everyone could hear the drama.

I so feel for you. I try so hard to do my shopping in November. My RSD doesn't involved my lower limbs but in crowds people bump into my arms. I try so hard to stay away from crowds.

I do as much shopping on-line and have become the QVC-Queen! And for the fill in items I do be best to shop early in the day when the children are at least in school.

I'm normally an even tempered person, but I'm definately like you, can only take so much before rude people make us explode !!!

Good job by taking this matter up with management.

I hope that your shopping days will be brighter!

With aloha, Dana

UGH!!! I HATE THAT!

now, im a teenage girl, shopping basically my expertise. But lately, ive been having a ton of trouble with my leg and of course, its during the time majority of people are at the mall.. ick.

it just astounds me that SO many people are that rude. I used to go to a private catholic school from Pre-K through 8th grade. The first day of my freshman year in my public highschool i cried because people were so rude. I was on crutches, from a sprained ankle waaay before this whole RSD thing started, and i was a little 5 foot 90 pound girl. My school is on one level, but to get to the health classrooms i had to go down probably the longest and steepest steps of my life (i hadn't been informed about the elevator yet, its not even an elevator for people though, its for freight....). People actually pushed me to the side and ran down. I was like..."hello, im not trying to get in your way, chill out!" I also got plowed down by a 6 foot 6 inch Gothic kid in a hall that day too. i cried to my friends in the cafeteria. I said "I dont wanna be a big girl anymore!"

One of my best friends recently broke her foot and is using a boot thinger. She actually said to me the other day "i finally get how its so hard for you to get around and stuff". We were in American Eagle its kinda like an abercrombie or hollister, way to loud of music and to many skinny itty bitty girls in mini skirts in december... at the mall. But anyways, we were trying to navigate through the store, and well, we couldnt because we couldnt fit in the aisles. And we arent big girls, my friend is actually really tiny, but everyhitng is so packed and people just plow through like its not big deal. Or they walk right in front of you when you are looking at some merchandise, and stop and start looking. I dont know about all of you, but i usually wait until they are done, which takes usually less than a minute.

people these days....

yahoooooooooooooo mtn dewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

FW quote:
"i actually told him "well, why don't you just go and eat sh-- and die"
End quote.

I loved it. Sounds exactly what I do in the same set of circumstances...........
I don't take $ it off of people anymore who are RUDE to me. I even ask if they were raised in a farm barn with no manners. or I bet your Mother is quite proud of you. And I am sorry one time this guy said well my Mother has passed. I said well so has mine but she is definitely looking down proud of her daughter. Could yours same the same?????
I don't like being slammed into when I am in my chair or store cart. It makes me quite irritable & I am a pretty easy going person when out in public. I know people are oging to rude. But there is 'rude' & then there is "RUDE"

DebbyV

It's so sad that people forget to be kind to each other. I live across the street (directly) from a reasonably busy mall. It has a great grocery store, hardware store, fitness outlet, and smaller clothing stores. I have always enjoyed going over there when I need something.... Well, not today. I went over about 9:00 am but it's really cold up here so I decided to take my scooter and not push the walking. I go over and first thing I get really "dirty looks" for using my scooter. People walk in front of me all the time and I get so frustrated! I should not have to explain or make excuses for why I have a hard time walking. I'm young (I think so!) at 43 but RSD has made some things harder for me to do. I just don't have the time of day for nasty behaviour from others. What is this all about? Christmas is supposed to be a time of sharing, enjoying family and friend connections. It's really disappointing that the "feeling" of the Season is lost on so many -- just feeling overwhelmed, obligated, etc.? Truly a shame!

Oh Joan...
I am so sorry. What a cruddy day. Don't feel like The Lone Ranger or that it is only in your area, or anything like that. Rudeness such as that is happening all over.

‘Tis the Season, and all of that, you know....LOL

Yesterday, I asked Meghan if she would run to WalMart to pick up a couple of things, one of which was a very heavy box (30 lbs!!) of Kitty Litter. She was nice enough to go for me, instead of saying "I'll go WITH you", which is what the kids usually say, because at least they know that I can't handle or carry such things.

Anyway...I didn't think that she would go in there and get this think without a cart. But that is what she did. Not that it would have mattered with what happened anyway....but it just made it worse, in my opinion.

So, Meghan goes and gets the Kitty Litter first. The other item was very light weight, and something that she could pick up on her way back out, so I totally understand why she did this the way that she did. Makes perfect sense to me...I would have done it that way, even with the cart. Anyway, Picture Meghan coming to a point in the isle, along the back, as she was cutting down towards where the next item was, out of the greater flow of traffic, that was blocked by two ladies. One that had her cart poking a little bit out of an isle into Meghan's path, and another that was stopped IN the isle with her cart on one side, and her self on the other while she examined some product or another. So, Meghan pauses for a few seconds, giving them both time to notice her. The didn't. So, she then says "Excuse me". All that this produces is that the one lady with her cart poking a little bit into the isle pulls it more towards her..so she isn't a problem. But, Meghan still can't get around Ms Totally Blocking the Isle In All Directions.

Now, she knows that there are some people that have troubles hearing her voice. It is a thing that she has inherited from me, and me from my Mother, and her from hers. It is something about our "tone", or "timbre" or something. If we pitch our voice either higher (which none of us have what anyone would call a low voice in the first place..LOL) or lower, people will hear us better. Usually it is better to go lower, because some folks (usually men, but sometimes women too) have lost their High Pitched Hearing. So, that is what Meghan did. She pitched her voice lower, got a little bit louder (no one can say that ANY of us are "Quiet" ROFL), and sad again, "Ahem! Excuse me!". The lady didn't even flinch or twitch or glance in her direction.
Now, remember that this WHOLE time, Meghan is holding this 30 lb box of Arm & Hammer Kitty Litter (for multiple cats. LOL), and holding it by the strap, because it would slip when she tried to "hug" it to her. So, it is totally KILLING her hands, as she keeps swapping it back and forth. The child had horrible red marks on her hands that lasted for HOURS last night. In fact, I meant to check her hands this morning before she left for work, (but forgot to...sluggish reptile cold and rusty brain, that cold weather has TOTALLY messed up! LOL), because I was and still am worried that she might have done some damage, or at least some bruising to them.

Anyway, she again waits a few seconds with no acknowledgment from Ms Block the Isle Because I Am Queen Lazy *** Of The South, and then she EXPLODES! (Afterall, she IS her mother's daughter...LOL) "EXCUSE ME!!!!!" she HOLLERS at the woman. The woman finally turns to face Meghan and says, "You can go around".

Well...Meghan is fit to be tied. "Go around WHERE?" she says. "Do you not see me standing here with this box of kitty litter? You want me to go around WHERE? Walk all the way up this other isle here, and over two, and then back down one, to get where I need to get, when all YOU need to do is move over and let me pass?"

The lady says "You can get around. There is room. I don't have to move."

Well..Meghan is livid. She has been brought up to respect her elders...but she has also been brought up to respect those who also show HER some respect too. This lady was doing nothing of the sort. Meghan had been polite. She had tried, and tried. She had done everything...and she had tried to be patient. The woman was "a stupid head", which in Meghan's book is pretty damn bad...and I am sure translates into something much worse that she isn't comfortable saying in front of her mother. LOL. To make everything MUCH worse, she hurt. Her hands felt like she was trying to hold a knife that someone was pushing down on ( a very apt description that she gave me..or at least I think so). And, we can't ever forget that she most certainly IS her mother's daughter, and her grandmother's granddaugher....and so....

"Well. You know, YOUNG people are NOT the only ones who are expected to be POLITE. I Was brought up to be Polite and to be CONSIDERATE of others...no matter WHAT age they are...OLD WOMAN! MOVE YOUR STUPID CART, AND LET ME PASS BY! THIS BOX IS HEAVY AND IT IS CUTTING INTO MY HANDS, ALL BECAUSE YOU HAVE MADE ME STAND HERE AND WAIT ON YOUR IMPOLITE SELF!!!!!!!", and she grabs a hold of the end of the lady's cart, and pushes it out of her way, and STOMPS on past, looking like one of those Xena or something, just without the leather armor. ROFLMAO! If looks could kill, well...I am sure that Ms Got Bawled Out By My Usually Very Quiet Daughter Who Got Fed Up and Rightful Blew Her Top would have been left lying dead by her shoved aside cart right there by the make up, shampoo and other such stuff in WalMart. Shoot. Meghan said that there was "Some Guy" with her, but even HE didn't dare utter a word, or do anything as Meghan blew up and stormed on past. The only one that did anything was the lady who had had her cart poking out in the isle at the start, but had moved. She laughed when Meghn chewed the lady out (I think at the "Old Lady" thing...LOL).

I asked Meghan how "old" this "Old Lady" was, and she said "I don't even know. Older than me anyway." ROFL..at 19, that could be anything. I asked her if she was my age or older, and Meghan just shrugged. So, for all I know, this woman could have been 25, 35, 45, or 95. Although, I doubt she was super old....I don't think that Meghan would have totally lost it if she had been, as flashed of her beloved Mamaw would have flashed through her head. So, that would knock out from the 70's on up. I am betting that she was much younger than that, though. LOLOL.

Anyway....I just wanted to let you know that you aren't the only one that has had yucky experiences happen so far this Joyous Christmas Shopping Season. I think that folks are just getting Ruder and Ruder....and that they are so very self absorbed that the don't stop to think about anyone else but themselves. Of course, if someone were to inconvenience or be rude to THEM...well, that would be a totally different matter all together. Shame on everyone or anyone else for abusing them. Just as I am sure that Meghan was cursed and shamed and talked badly about for her "rude" and "ill mannered" and "bad behavior" that she rained down all over that "Old Lady's" head so uncalled for.....at least in that lady's eyes.

I do think that it was awful that no one helped the girl that you saw, and did help, in the wheel chair, while you were out. That everyone, including the employees who are supposed to be "oh so helpful" made such a studied practice of looking the other way, and letting her struggle all alone and unassisted. I am glad that you went in and talked to management....but I am wondering if it will do any good? Maybe, if you see that again, a news station getting wind of that kind of behavior, and doing one of those "Fighting for you" expose things would work? I don't know...it just seems like something should be done, as this sort of behavior and not caring about people has gotten totally out of hand. What does it say about what people in general are becoming?

I am glad that there are people like you in the world.....and that I have taught my kids to lend helping hands when they see they are needed...AND to stand up for themselves and let stupid "Old Ladies" know when they are behaving badly (even though it probably fell on deaf ears..LOL). That is all we can all really do...right?

Here's hoping that we all survive this Happy Holiday Season! Ho ho ho.

Ba-Humbuggy (Almost...at least with the getting out and shopping with yucky people around part! LOL) ((Hugs))
Jose

i have bruises everywhere! last night the leg cramps were so bad i spent most of the night walking around. if it hadn't been so darn freezing cold outside i probably would have gotten dressed and gone for a long walk. then i had to use the heating pad on my ribs for a couple of hours because the spasms were so bad. (more bubblewrap please) i look like i've been run over by a truck and then it backed over me again to see what it hit.

i have decided since i can't sleep for the leg cramps anyway maybe i should do my shopping at a 24 hr walmart. surely the isles will be empty by then.

today we go to the nursing home to visit mil and eat lunch w/her, then tonight is a huge christmas concert at my church. maybe i'll be able to sleep tonight with no trouble. i should be tired enough.

hugs and prayers to all

Hello: I have asthma and am severely allergic to cigarette smoke. Years ago, I was on a bus on its way to a march in Washington, DC. There is a truck stop on the way where bus loads of people stop to eat, etc.

While standing in line for the restroom, a woman in front of me pulled out a cigarette, and I asked her politely to please not smoke it as I have asthma. She lit it anyway! I had to run outside in order not to have an asthma attack!!!! Needless to say, I had to go the whole way to DC without being able to go to the restroom.

I am always polite to people so I left and had to suffer with a full bladder. What I should have done since she was wearing a scarf was pull it reallly tight around her throat and tell her I would let her breathe if she would let me breathe. Josie, I really admire your daughter; I wish I had as much courage. She rocks!!!

I remember walking with my cane to the store in south Florida and someone yelled out the car window "Hey you cripple!" That happened to me more than once. Also, I have been pushed out of the way in a grocery store on my way out the door. Where I live, people use the handicapped parking spaces to leave their empty carts. I also overheard someone say that if I was disabled I should "stay home".

I did all my shopping online. Paying shipping charges and having the packages delivered to you door is so much easier than trying to shop and carry heavy packages. I bought toys for all of my grandchildren so there is no problems with sizes.

Sorry to ramble on here. Have a nice, painfree day. Regards, Lil

joan,

i am so sorry to hear that u had to put up with all this garbage from people.....i don't understand why this sort of thing happens, but i do wish it wouldn't happen to peple i care about!.....however, i applaud your complaint to management about the wheelchair person, and i'm raising flags about your "eat s--t and die' remark to a man who earned it.....actually, i laughed like a fool when i read it, but if i had the right kind of flags, i'd raise them!

jose,....tell meghan i said "u go girl!"....and i agree about the respect.....MOST people who r older have earned some respect simply because they've learned some wisdom from daily life or they've accomplished some valuable things....but let's face it -- a 49-year old jackass is still just a jackass!

i hope the upcoming week is better for everyone.