BF that is it, my heart needs healing so bad.

Thank you everyone for being here for me. I just thought it was over, I finally could heal, feel justice.....I have such a heart ache.

He went to court in 1985 and told them he did not want to see the kids anymore. He didn;t either. Once in Sr year for prom dd asked him to help get a dress....all of it was the kids making a call, they were grown, mainly to get cash at christmas and their Birthday......otherwise I know they never would have bothered.

There was an attachment to his wages many years ago. After he was finally almost in jail. there was a warrant. BUT, his wages went down consitently each year. To the point in the 80's he paid $18 an hour to 2000, he was earning $6 an hour with the same construction company. His childhood friend.

He testified during depositions that he is disabled and NOT working, He is the manager of the wives bar, both their names,. and he is working for a transport company hired to transport special needs students for the school system.

What is hurting my son the most, reading he was in a Will and the man that is using him in the middle of us, never told him. Mean while his half siblings, bought $200,000 home, new cars, race cars, trucks....

Makes us ill,

I have a feeling what he tried to do was use the son, and say I will get half and then give you some of it. The son said to me what ever his father got, what I gave the son, he would match.
The other dangling thread was he wanted a trust set up for his grandson (the ex's) who is nothing to us.

But would not provide our son his share of his fathers Will.

It is trumatic, and after talking briefly with an estate/probation attorney yesterday, he is entitled to half.....we can settle out of court, but he wants half......so you know he will not accept much less;

Then only thing is that I can on behalf of my dd estate go for her portion of the grandfathers Will, but the money is all gone and hidden now. In Oct they finally probated the Will 3 1/2 years after his passing. After a settlement was reached.

My car went back, I owe last months and this months mortgage as I was to have the money before the holiday.
My husband has been out of work since Feb. and ready to retire this spring so age prevents him from finding work,

Our son has not worked more then part time because of health in 4 years. My dh and I support his needs, he even uses our only running vehicle to get to work.

The ex is just on a life time of hate to me, and abuse.....
I wish my Daddy were here.,,,,
honey

This week marks the anniversary of the passing of my dd. I sit with tears just flowing wishing her here, to talk to her one to one, to hold her cats and see her. Maybe I can dream and see her tonight.

Such a difficult week, no progress forward. I asked for a mediation pow wow to be set up. The consenus is to send it to court and let the lawyers etc get the money eat up.

I was told though the option to avoid court by having the ex sign that he will not seek action to company on his own is Blackmail. This letter was from his attorney, but then all the curruption in the county, who would care.

I did have a consult and it is promising as to offset the monies to ex. and he is willing to set in with a negotiation. I hope by Tues

We are broke....with the job losses and carrying the medical. Meds, even dental needs have to wait.

I was so hoping to pay off the mortgage to at least have a roof over our heads. this ex is claiming disability and bought all this property on his fathers will and never even helped the son with medical or repair his car, The other two children were extremly well taken care of by the money trail
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It is all about punishing me. I miss my child so much, and have the other children to help and this animal is evil.

I can't sleep, I have vivid dreams where the other children have died, I can't eat anything but pick. My heart is racing.

What can I do but pray for justice and peace. All the heartache, reliving stres for what to line a mans pockets that has 5 income propertiesm, his kids homes, lots for hunting, a bar, and he could not even had bought a mattress for his daughter when we had to get rid of hers.

We are still going for abadonment, and the offset of money owed....if it goes to trial....I thought after depositions the reliving was behind me....
Sorry to vent, but I cant let the family see me this upset.

It helps to vent. I'm so sorry to hear of these heart breaking events. Please keep venting,and talking to us. I just said a prayerfor you. BF

No new news, still in a limbo here. Majority leaning toward just being a father he gets half although he wanted no part of the suit. The other is that there was the abadonment issue, and loss of those rights.

He is not moving from half. I am to pay all the legal fees and cost, he wants half.
Absolutly no negotiation. Either it goes to court for a probate court to decide or I give him half.

Still the issue he did not administer the estate of his father to our children. He is still concealing that Will, he does not know I have a copy from the probate.
Difficult to dress, make meals, I sit and watch the email for an update, or the phone to ring with hopeful news.

I hide it from everyone here,
Keep praying for closure and strength.
honey