I am struggling with a lose of a friend. I lost him on January 22, 2007. He has been my friend since I 1996. We went to the same church. He was the first to greet me when I walked in the church and the last to tell me goodbye. I am still having a hard time with his death, and probably will have a hard time for years to come. He left behind, a wife, 3 kids, and a lot of loving friends. I gave him a hug not 24 hours before he got rearended in a car accident. His wife and kids and I have grown closer, but that won't take the place of him. He was a faithful person, believed in the Lord, I have no doubt where he is it, but I do miss him. I wish someone could help me.

Jennifer

I am so sorry for the lose of your friend Jennifer. Perhaps your chuch could set aside some special memorial for him....plant a flowering tree..maybe donate a bench.

My church has already planted a flower and we may be getting a plaque for him, I guess I am just being selfish by missing him so much.

I will pray for you and your friends family,perhaps you and his children should plant a tree in there yard.And help his wife with the children when you can she will need some time for herself...Many Blessings Jen Sue

praying for you, for God will give you peace.

I lost my first love,and good friend in 1982 -he was age 19 -
I believe I will see him in heaven, I am 44 now.
give your pain to the Lord.

((((((Jennifer)))))),



I'm so sorry. I know how hard it is to lose someone that you have a real strong connection with. My younger Brother committed suicide at age 21 -- over 40 years ago. Took me a long time to get my balance back.

The only real thing that helps is time -- and memories. You'll learn, through trial and error -- and just plain old force-of-will -- how to put these feelings away in your brain and in your heart. ...so that the pain doesn't hurt anymore and the memories bring comfort.

Sometimes, reading the words of others who understand helps. I've found these to be not just comforting -- but also helpful:
Rainbows and Butterflies -- I've told a lot of friends about this site. Everyone that I've told has experienced this gift.

Living When a Loved One Has Died - Rabbi Earl A. Grollman -- this man is incredible. He's one of the true gifts from G-d. He helped me move my Mom from out-of-state into a Massachusetts hospice. He's a very kind, caring man.

any Elisabeth Kubler-Ross book -- I attended a workshop that she held during the time that my Mom was in hospice. I also attended a family memorial service a year after my Mom had passed.

I wish, more than anything, Jennifer that you weren't having to experience this. It's different when you lose a friend; you don't have the same support that family members do. I imagine that you're just finding that out now.

After you read the website about after-death communication, stay real quiet and thoughtful for a few days. You'll get a communication from your friend through another living being -- an animal, maybe a plant -- that will let you know that your friend has arrived safely.

I've evolved a 'different' belief system over time that has protected me and comforted me. I don't believe that our loved ones go to 'nothingness' or even to 'heaven'. I believe that their energy gets reused and will come back to us in another form -- especially if the connection was strong.

I'll say a quiet prayer for your friend tonight. And you, I'll pray for you too, Jennifer. Stay close to your friend's family -- they're gonna need you, and you them. Talk about your friend a lot. The talking helps to develop the strong memories which are truly a gift. Hugs.

Barb

im sorry you lost your friend

i hate drunk drivers

I will try to get through this, It is just like I lost a piece of me, I know where he is and can't wait to see him again, but it isn't like going to church and getting a hug from him or seeing him every Sunday. Again thanks for the encouragment.

Jennifer

Jennifer
i pray that today, on Resurrection Sunday, you will be comforted knowing that Jesus is the one hugging your friend now.

I pray too that his family will be surrounded by God's love today.

I pray your day will be blessed, Jennifer

I pray for your friend...for his wife and family. And I pray that God will give you comfort in this trying period of your life.