Rsd me
 

In my prayers
 

Just like Kiwi and Gerry said....you are a good sister and your brother is lucky to have someone like you by his side, when the rest of the family has turned away.

You are both in my prayers,
Diandra

i just wanted to thank all of you for all your prayers and kind words. you are all such awesome people and it means alot to know i have such caring friends. thanks again. i hope you all have a wonderful day today. take care.

there is a place where you can get...
 

dear friend

as a recovering addict myself
and after twenty year
and still the first thing i do
having my obsession lifted
does not mean i can entertain
anything that masked and took away
what i did not want to feel or address

what Gerry and others are correct in their assessment
you cannot be his save or anyone else
BUT, the most important thing I can offer as one
for your brother to know he can count on your
unconditional love
it is this kind of love needed
to know when he is ready to throw in the towel
YOU will be there for support
dear friend
operative word support
there isn't anything else you can do

i hope and pray
with what the real problems are
that take him to mask it
however insignificant it could be for one
it is so not the same for for those who do not suffer
addiction
so much bigger than the drug alcohol food sex gambling
and on and on
you are a precious sister
do not let go
do not stop giving him your unconditional love

you must take care of you before helping anyone else

i give you my love and a hug
to a very special woman
as things may be tough here
you can lean on me
love me

just wanted to say thanks again to all of you for your caring thoughts and kind words. my brother is still in denial of his addiction and won't go with me to see a dr. i don't understand why he can't see how much trouble he is in. his life is falling apart and he has lost everything and would prefer to be homeless then to come see me and go to a dr. its so frustrating and breaking my heart.

i will never give up on him though and will provide unconditional love and hope he gets the help he needs soon.

i also wanted to thank you eva for sharing your experience and advice on what to do for my brother. it made me feel better knowing that you got the help you needed and that you thought i was doing the right thing by sticking by him. i am so happy that you got help and got better. it takes a strong person to be able to do that and i am very proud of you.

i hope my brother can also find the strength he needs to get better too.
all i can do is be there for him and pray every day that he will.

thank you all again for being there to give me strength to deal with this. you are good friends indeed.

RSD ME,

Your commitment to your brother is admirable and should be held up to others as an example. Never stop loving him.

However, it is a fine line between being supportive and your brother feeling that you are pushing him. Always remember it is your purpose to hold up a light and lead the way. No-one can be forced in a direction they do not want, no matter how beneficial.

Never use the phrase 'You need to…' . Instead, show the benefits of what you are proposing, softly and calmly.

I do hope, for both your benefits, that this state of affairs does not continue too long.

Thinking of you.

Dave.

and so i would like to share
God
grant me the Serenity
to accept the things i Cannot change
the courage to change the things i Can
and the Wisdom to Understand the difference

Please apply to everyday life
but needed in your life now
more NOW than ever
step back
not to far
not to allow your life
to be all over the place
my dear
no doctor
except Dr. Bill
and his 12 step foundation
that all other fellowship follow
no doctor can save him
addiction
it IS
cunning and baffling
this i know for certain
your a great sister
no judging
just understanding
love
me

thanks eva for your helpful advice. and i love the serenity prayer. it is one of my favorite prayers! thank you for reminding me of it. i am trying to do the best i can with my brothers situation taking it a day at a time, but it's hard. and being chronically ill myself with rsd and fibro and eno doesn't help. but i'm taking your advice and trying to accept that i cannot be the one who helps my brother to get help. it has to be up to him. i will always have my hand out for him to hold when he is ready to get the much needed help he needs. i just hope he makes it to that point. i hope and i pray every day.

thank you englishdave for your great advice too. you're right too. i cannot push my brother into getting help. it has to be up to him. but i will hold a light for him when he is ready to get the help he needs. i hope he gets to the point that he will see he needs help before it's too late. i will keep praying for him and keep my promise to him that i will never give up on him.

You are doing all you can
All left in the end
Prayers the obsession be lifted
So the work ahead of him
Will hopefully be with persons
he has found in the rooms
NA NARCOTICS ANONYMOUS
AND A SAFE PLACE WITH YOU
at some point
When opportunity presents itself
You may want to express
When he is ready
YOU MAY WANT TO ACCOMPANY HIM TO HIS FIRST
NA MEETING
I must be a open meeting
You can search for this info in the blue pages of your
phone book
That is something you defiantly can do
As I had a friend hold my hand to my first meeting
It was a crisp sunny day
And it's been ongoing still
I am able to speak with my children about addiction

All over the place I went
Hope to have made sense
Love
Me