hi zinnia. thank you so much for your prayers and for your great advice. having prayers and support from my friends here at NT helps me cope better with what life throws my way. i hope you are having a good day and that you are having a low to no pain rsd day today. sending soft hugs and caring thoughts your way my friend.

RSD....
I think zinnia's suggestion to check out Stepchat.com in the area for Al-Anon might be helpful to you in dealing with your brother's choice to remove his family from his life at this time.

It's a choice he has made and I pray he will soon come back to his family where he knows in his heart; there is love.

But until then, you need to allow yourself to find a way to learn how to deal with this. I think Al-Anon would be very helpful. Because of Al-Anon, my cousin found herself better able to accept there was nothing she could do about her son; except of course; prayer. But, Al-Anon did help her deal with it in a way that she was able to not hurt so deeply and better be able to fulfill her daily needs for herself and others. I hope you give it a try. With this site, you would not even have to leave the house.

Praying both for you and your brother.


Gerry

hi everyone. i hope you are all doing well. i'm not doing so good myself right now. my brother just told me that he has hiv. i feel numb with waves of tears. he is still a mess and said he is not happy living the way he is but he can't do anything about it now. i am having trouble breathing. not sure if its a panic attack or something else. anyway i just needed to talk. i pray that he doesnt suffer anymore. hes suffered enough. no one deserves that kind of pain. more prayers for my brother are always welcome. thanks for listening. love to all.
p.s. thank you so much for being my friends. i could not face all this pain without your support. i treasure you all so much.

RSD,
So sorry to learn about your brother's additional issues. The only positive thing is he is in touch with you. Be careful tho, you may be stressing yourself too much.

I will definitely keep both you and your brother in my prayers.


Gerry

thank you for your prayers. i was happy my brother started to speak to me again after almost six months of silence but now he is telling me he is going to stop again. he says that no one cares and he just wants to be alone. i don't know what to do anymore. i am at a loss. my heart is breaking because i do care about him and can't seem to convince him of that. this is so hard. why can't he just let me help him. i don't get it but will keep praying that he will get better. i can't give up hope. i feel like hope is all i have left to give. thanks again for you prayers.

Let him know your love for him is and always has been "unconditional" and you will be there whenever he wants you to be part of his life. It's almost as if he is not ready to make a commitment so it's easier to say he wants to be alone. You are doing all you can to let him know you care. Till then; all you can do is pray and trust God will show him the way.


Gerry

RSD,

Since it's been a while; I have been wondering how things are with your brother? I wish there was some way (other than showing him yours/and our posts) to get through to him how much you really care about him.


Gerry

I would appreciate more prayers for my brother. He has disappeared again and won't take my calls. I hope he is safe and sound. All I can do now is pray that he is. Thanks for listening.

may it be sooner then later you get word he is breathing
we are going through the same situation
asking my boy
if you bring me in your life the least he could do is just let me know he is breathing
we have but our prayers
and hope that this be it
their done
over
yet the pain isn't that great
and we are left to pray it not be devastating
what a terrible evil entity depression
addiction, mental disease so out of control
so many suffering
and how many who are suffering in silence
if i could just leave a thought behind that would never be forgotten
one needs to live it
be it
embrace it
do something about it
know you don't have to go it alone
i wonder what goes through my mother mind
not having her family around her
this by her choice
there was a family same age when taking on her third marriage
my children will call and drop a line
just because
i just wonder
but know you are an awesome sister
awesome
one day at a time
so much can happen in twenty four hours
i hope to remember that more myself
love and prayers
me

Sending prayers for your brother and healing love for your heart. :hug: