just wanted to say thanks again to all of you for your caring thoughts and kind words. my brother is still in denial of his addiction and won't go with me to see a dr. i don't understand why he can't see how much trouble he is in. his life is falling apart and he has lost everything and would prefer to be homeless then to come see me and go to a dr. its so frustrating and breaking my heart.

i will never give up on him though and will provide unconditional love and hope he gets the help he needs soon.

i also wanted to thank you eva for sharing your experience and advice on what to do for my brother. it made me feel better knowing that you got the help you needed and that you thought i was doing the right thing by sticking by him. i am so happy that you got help and got better. it takes a strong person to be able to do that and i am very proud of you.

i hope my brother can also find the strength he needs to get better too.
all i can do is be there for him and pray every day that he will.

thank you all again for being there to give me strength to deal with this. you are good friends indeed.

RSD ME,

Your commitment to your brother is admirable and should be held up to others as an example. Never stop loving him.

However, it is a fine line between being supportive and your brother feeling that you are pushing him. Always remember it is your purpose to hold up a light and lead the way. No-one can be forced in a direction they do not want, no matter how beneficial.

Never use the phrase 'You need to…' . Instead, show the benefits of what you are proposing, softly and calmly.

I do hope, for both your benefits, that this state of affairs does not continue too long.

Thinking of you.

Dave.

and so i would like to share
God
grant me the Serenity
to accept the things i Cannot change
the courage to change the things i Can
and the Wisdom to Understand the difference

Please apply to everyday life
but needed in your life now
more NOW than ever
step back
not to far
not to allow your life
to be all over the place
my dear
no doctor
except Dr. Bill
and his 12 step foundation
that all other fellowship follow
no doctor can save him
addiction
it IS
cunning and baffling
this i know for certain
your a great sister
no judging
just understanding
love
me

thanks eva for your helpful advice. and i love the serenity prayer. it is one of my favorite prayers! thank you for reminding me of it. i am trying to do the best i can with my brothers situation taking it a day at a time, but it's hard. and being chronically ill myself with rsd and fibro and eno doesn't help. but i'm taking your advice and trying to accept that i cannot be the one who helps my brother to get help. it has to be up to him. i will always have my hand out for him to hold when he is ready to get the much needed help he needs. i just hope he makes it to that point. i hope and i pray every day.

thank you englishdave for your great advice too. you're right too. i cannot push my brother into getting help. it has to be up to him. but i will hold a light for him when he is ready to get the help he needs. i hope he gets to the point that he will see he needs help before it's too late. i will keep praying for him and keep my promise to him that i will never give up on him.

You are doing all you can
All left in the end
Prayers the obsession be lifted
So the work ahead of him
Will hopefully be with persons
he has found in the rooms
NA NARCOTICS ANONYMOUS
AND A SAFE PLACE WITH YOU
at some point
When opportunity presents itself
You may want to express
When he is ready
YOU MAY WANT TO ACCOMPANY HIM TO HIS FIRST
NA MEETING
I must be a open meeting
You can search for this info in the blue pages of your
phone book
That is something you defiantly can do
As I had a friend hold my hand to my first meeting
It was a crisp sunny day
And it's been ongoing still
I am able to speak with my children about addiction

All over the place I went
Hope to have made sense
Love
Me

hi everyone. i was just wondering if you could pray for my brother again. he is in the very sick and is in the hospital. i am trying to help him but he is pushing me away and i don't know why. so i thought i could at least pray for him and ask my friends here at neurotalk if they would pray for him to get better too. thanks for all of your support. hugs to all.

Just wanted to check in and see how your brother is doing....and you ?

Praying for both of you.

Hugs

Debi

Hi,

I am praying for healing for your brother and strength for you in your support of him. It is so often when we are unwell that we fall into the arms of those who love us and realize how much we need them. I hope that the gift of clarity comes to your brother out of this, to see the wonderful support he has in you and to take solace in it. May he get well soon.

Sending healing love,

Remember this
And also
Like myself
My daughter
My son
We had to get down on our knees
Addiction is just as painful as the physical pain we feel
Only
To have lost the privilege
To be a part of life on life's terms
I rather say
Life on Gods terms
We ARE given free will
I will pray for you and your brother
And for all the addicts out there
God bless
Here to lean on
Love
Me