Man WH~ I just feel so darn bad for you. Your sadness and frustration rings loud and clear in your posts. I can only say, that we all care about you here and hope that you'll continue to seek support and comfort from all of us.

That's why WE are here.

I am praying for you and your kids....
Above all~ please try and take care of yourself; stress is so hard on a person.

{{{{WH}}}}

Nothing much to say. If our yard sale gets rained out tomorrow like I think it will Plan B might get him out of my hair for the rest of the day. I bartered for some tutoring and the pay up call came last night.

Myself and my kids are priority. The stress is trying to eat me alive. As long as I take things one moment at a time I think I will be okay.

Assume no news over the weekend means things are stable.

Weave You're doing the right thing by just taking things as they come. I've learned that the more I fret over all the "what ifs" the more stressed and anxious I get. That's not to say that having a plan and anticipating what might happen isn't a good thing...it's always good to be prepared...but what is going to happen will happen with or without our worrying and fretting. Just take it one day (or hour or minute) at a time and try not to look too far ahead....concentrate on getting through "now" and the rest will fall into place. Wow, I just sounded alot like my Mom used to sound. I guess that's a good thing....

I'm praying for you and your family.....

Survived the weekend. His carp is still in my bedroom but he still plans to move out. Somehow I knew Friday night would come and go with his stuff still there.

Today is our once and done gripe session with the pastor. I don't know what to hope for with that. I still say it is a complete waste of cleaning/ packing time. I'm not 100% sure I'm even going to bother showing up.

Thanks for your continued kindness and prayers.

Weave, good luck today. I think you should go. If not for the two of you, go for yourself. Sometimes talking it out helps and leaning on your spiritual side may ease some of your pain.

I agree with Sandy....go for yourself and for no other reason. If you go with an open mind and heart you might be surprised what a neutral, third party opinion on things can do for you.

I think of you often, Weave, and you're always in my prayers.

Well we went to our gripe session and stayed for the whole thing. Pastor got down to business right away skipping over the so- what- seems- to- be- the- problem part as he already knew some of that. He made it clear he and his wife came dangerously close to throwing in the marriage towel while he was studying to be a minister. He then explained the method of counsel that turned them around and he has used since to help save many other marriages.

DH and I are extremely reluctant to try counseling again. Been there, done that, sick to death of it. This method involves dredging up the past from our earliest memories to the present. DH is dead set against reliving his most painful memories. I totally understand why. On the other hand, if I understand correctly, the bulk of the time will be spent looking at how we reacted to the carp in our lives and developing healthier ways to react, not the past hurts themselves.

So now the question is do I or don't I? Do we or don't we? Go for counseling once again. We have a week to decide and it may take me that long too. Excuse me while I have a major meltdown.