I am too numb to know what to ask for and God is nowhere to be found. Why I am posting here I really do not know. I was a spiritual person but now I'm not so sure. Here is my story-

My husband of 20 years and I are unofficially separating. He is moving to the (daylight) basement and the kids and I will stay on the main floor. I suspect we will be divorced within the next six years. Probably sooner rather than later. While unofficially separated we plan to live in the same house/ different floors for monetary reasons which are complicated and probably going to get much worse. The official divorce would be right after our youngest child graduates from high school if we can last that long. We would live in separate houses after that.

As you can imagine I am a ball of emotions right now. Yes this has been brewing for a long time but still it is excruciatingly painful. If counseling was going to fix this it would have long ago. Been there, done that off and on for 20 years, not going anywhere near it again. The only counseling I'm interested in right now is of the lawyer kind. Sadly I can't afford it. Not sure I can not afford it either. I am too numb to think straight. I don't know what to do or what I want.

Thanks for listening.

Awwww, so sorry for your troubles, ((((WeaveHerr))))

At least your children will benefit from everyone still living under the same roof.

I hope you get the help and answers you need. Don't give up on God -- He hasn't given up on you.

I don't have much advice for you, other than: Don't do anything drastic until you KNOW what you want to do.

I'll be praying for your family. I echo what Twink said, Don't give up on God. He's ready when you are.

God does know what you need. Trust and HE will direct you.

You may want to look into pro bono lawyers or state assistance legal advice. They should help you figure out your rights and how to protect yourself for the future.

I'm really sorry to hear this, WH! I really can't offer any great advice, but I can say that I will keep you and your kids in my prayers and I am here to listen when you need to vent. That's one of the great things about NT; we are all in need of emotional support at one time or another and the members here really care.

I know we all have our beliefs and I totally respect that, but I have a feeling that the Lord is w/you. Remember the verses from Footprints in the Sand, as the words totally ring true.

take care WH and please come here often and let us know how you are doing.

It is so sad to hear this from you, we are hear listen at any time. There is one thing I would like to say. God gives us trying times, to see how strong we are, just hang in there and the light will come. My prayers and thoughts are with you.

Darlene

weave I am sorry, not sure whats the situation there is as far as friction is involved,

I do not mean to make it sound worse my apologies if it does, but if I may say something about how it was for me and my bro. my folks waited till we graduated high school, I can not tell you how much I wished they had divorced, those were sour years until my bro graduated. those years were hell for me and my bro. I split at 17 and got my own place, just trying to show another side of this, my folks fought and argued a lot and that got old real quick,

like I said I was not sure of your situation so if you are not like my folks, then I say one day at a time, and get the pieces all lined up for your next step in life, try to hang in there

any time you want to talk don't hesitate been through it as a child and became a sole parent of two babies many many moons ago,

Thanks everyone for your kind words. They are comforting to me. While I would like things to work out I highly doubt they will. My top priority is taking care of me and my kids. Educate myself then decide on at least a daily basis if I stay and try or get out. At the moment I see a flicker of hope for one issue. Again I am not holding my breath that it will stay like that but I am hopeful. He is still moving downstairs.

The ray of hope evaporated and I could have an even bigger problem on my hands.

Weave - Although I don't have any advice for you, I will certainly keep you in my prayers.