I'm so sorry, Ali. The passing of a loved one is never easy but especially hard when it's so unexpected. It will take your Nanan some time to take it all in. It would be good if someone could stay with her or take her to their home for the next few days. You're all in my prayers and I hope that you find the strength to deal with the days ahead as they will be difficult.

My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family in this difficult time ali. I am so sorry for your loss.

Oh Ali I am so sorry to read of his passing. Sending up prayers.

so sorry dear ali. sending hugs and prayers your way.

Ali, I'm so sorry.

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Alison,

So sorry to hear about your lost. My prayers are with you and your family.

Darlene

Thank you all so very much for your kind words and prayers, you don't know how much it means at a time like this.

We went to see my nanan again last night to see if she was OK and she said that she was but you could tell that something wasn't right. She kept staring into the chair where my grandad sat which is also where he collapsed and died. It's so distressing seeing her like this and is a bit scary at the moment going into the house. My nanan lives with one of her sons (my uncle) so he is going to be taking care of her hopefully and she has 5 other kids who have all said that they will offer to help out.

I'm feeling a lot more upset today. I think yesterday I was in shock and didn't want to believe or believed that all of this was happening. I just wanted it to be a big nightmare and I would just wake up and everything would be fine but I know that is not the case.

I didn't sleep last night, I have too much on my mind and everytime I closed my eyes, I saw my grandad laying there with tubes in his mouth. Hopefully within time things will get easier and I will be able to cope more. We have so much to sort out at the moment for the cremation but we can't start doing any of that until tomorrow has the Undertakers is shut. My grandad is being taken to the Chapel Of Rest tomorrow so if we want, we can all go and see him and pay our respects.

I will let you all know when the funeral is. Thank you so much once again for your kind words and prayers, it means the world to me and my family

Ali, it's quite normal to be feeling the way you are at the moment!

Under the circumstances, I doubt that most people would be thinking straight. It's always traumatic to lose some-one close to your heart, and I can well imagine some of the pain that you and your nanan are going through right now.

When you feel up to it, you might like to spend a little time with your nanan to help ease her lonliness, but remember that Alison needs to heal first.

It will be hard Ali and please don't forget that, but at the same time nobody will expect you to be any kind of superwoman.

You take it easy, and remember that we all love you here, and we'll always be here for you should you need to talk.

Sending you special hugs Ali
I am so truly sorry for you loss.....you and your family are in my thoughts sweetie