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Hi, I was injured several years ago which necessitated 10 plus major surgeries and now, after being prescribed a large amount of medications I'm wondering if one of the events mentioned may be the cause of what I'm going through?
For the past year I only satisfy my wife without the use of my penis but, she is doesn't like this as she fears that I'm not not satisfied (we've tried almost everything to get me erect) even though I reassure her that I am!
I see a pain management doctor along with a urologist. The pain management doctor wants to add more prescribed meds meanwhile, the urologist wants me to have a pump installed or come in once a week for a shot in the penis, both of which doesn't interest me.
DOES ANYONE HAVE SUGGESTIONS; HAS THIS HAPPENED TO YOU WHAT CAN I DO TO GET ME MY LIFE BACK?
I'm in my mid 40 forties and my wife late thirties, and have a lot of years left for intimacy leading to intercourse!