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01-10-2016, 10:50 PM | #1 | ||
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Hi,
I am a 23 year old male , university graduate, and am normal except for one thing: I have a fetish. It all started when I was about 11 years old just entering puberty. I discovered that I was absolutely obsessed with thongs (underwear). I wouldn't wear them or anything but loved to see them on chicks especially if they were showing out of a chicks pants. I did not like any other style of underwear except for thongs and it was specific like that. I never really questioned it when I was younger but it became sort of an obsession. I was definitely not very social during this time and also in high school. I subconsciously felt weird about it but didn't know how to explain it. Like my friends and everything had it so easy because they could be turned on by normal stuff like boobs and butts but here I was that loved chicks wearing thongs. In fact I would only date girls in high school that wore thongs that's how strong the fetish was. During my 20s I became more socially aware and grown up and realised that I had a fetish this whole time. It has made me feel like a freak and a pervert. Like how can I be attracted to a piece of fabric it doesn't make any sense. I feel like an outcast , like I will be alone on my own my whole life. I don't want to objectify a woman because of the type of underwear she wears. Through high school I began to experience severe anxiety. I was put on anti depressants which drastically lowered my sex drive. On the times throughout many years where I have come off them my sex drive has come back strong and again my fetish comes back . I am on antidepressants now and actually kind of like the fact of having no sex drive after coming to this realization. I would rather have no sex drive than feel like some sort of pervert. Is there a way to get rid of a fetish. I just want to be normal |
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01-10-2016, 11:45 PM | #2 | |||
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Quizzes - http://psychcentral.com/quizzes/
Quizzes might help to determine if a fetish vs a obsession/compulsion disorder? Our sister site might have more in-depth information and help on this topic - http://psychcentral.com/
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06-24-2016, 05:57 PM | #3 | |||
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As fetishes go this one on the surface seems relatively harmless and innocuous. It's about how you are reacting and dealing with it that seems to me to be the issue. You use the words "freak and pervert". What's freakish about it really? Not to give TMI but my spouse of 40+ years and I enjoy sex that includes thongs and other flavors of erotic lingerie.
Seem to me the anxiety and depression sound like bigger issues than the thong fetish. I'd suggest seeing a therapist that works with patients with depression, most of them also can deal with sexual disorders. Sounds like you know this already but antidepressants are notorious libido killers, can cause ED and inability to ejaculate. Best to you.
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10-21-2016, 10:50 PM | #4 | ||
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Is it normal though to have a specific interest though? I think this might have come about during puberty. As a young guy I remember one of my first crushes wearing thongs and I got really aroused. I might have connected a woman wearing thongs as more confident and sexy or something i don't know. This is the only " fetish " or strong turn on I can think of. I can still get aroused by the "normal" stuff like boobs and butts but if my fetish is involved my arousal is a lot stronger. I fear that isn't normal
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11-14-2016, 11:17 PM | #5 | |||
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As you are not harming another person, this fetish doesn't sound "freakish" or "perverted".
Other articles of female clothing have been the subject of arousal, black nylons and garter belts for example. Don't beat yourself up, and over dramatize this. |
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04-19-2020, 12:30 AM | #6 | ||
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My fetishes have been far more destructive than thongs. Count your blessings.
Hats off for coming to terms with not having a libido and actually graduating college. You might even find a wife since you seem to be able to focus on economy. You might prefer a woman who actually doesn't show off her thong though, as women who flash thongs in the sense that you are associating, might drag you through the dust. It is important not to let your taste in pornography dictate your taste in women, a lesson I learned from many a woeful relationship. Find a woman who you can turn into your ideal fantasy rather than find one who already is what you fantasize about. You will be happier as top dog in the relationship. Sent from my moto g(7) power using Tapatalk |
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04-20-2020, 08:58 AM | #7 | |||
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@OP, Fetishes are not uncommon and are NOT a sign of being a freak and pervert"! Stop judging yourself and as Lightrail suggests- get with a therapist and get yourself off the libido killing AD drugs!
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04-20-2020, 05:07 PM | #8 | ||
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Maybe because I'm the scum of the Earth, former salt of the Earth back before porn.
I enjoy my time spent without thinking about sex. I understand how you feel guilty of having any sort of sexual "fetish." If I had not watched so much porn my freshman year of college, I might have a bachelor's in biology by now. Hypersexuality can be enormously destructive, disturbing, and create lack of motivation. It can also cause feelings of insignificance. There is no middle ground between the player and the scholar. You have to decide which one you will be. The scholar will "get none" and the player will inevitably be homeless. Sent from my moto g(7) power using Tapatalk |
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05-16-2024, 03:28 AM | #9 | ||
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Hii I am new on this site so I don't know to how to publicly post so I am going to post here, I am 21 year old I am belong from India I have a fetish and that all starts when I am only 5 to 6 year old one morning I woke up and like my regular routine I am going to be fresh I returned back by wait face the one lady I don't remember she he just wiped my face by her saree petticoat of cotton that time I feel the smoothness and the smell of perfume that going to unforgettable and I started to by behind the eyes of people's smelling and feeling that smoothness of petticoat by everytime when I got chance as I grew up that hobby becoming my fetish.and nowadays in normal life also it's making me difficulty whenever I saw petticoat I feel aroused but only specific type of design and used and becomed soft cause of use it is arouse me as no limit .I also desire to wear it and feel his touching to thigh I like to play with him and also wants to make sex by applying it on mouth . because I fulfilled this by making masterbassion .and now it going to be hard me from childhood this secret I bring with myself only but today I feel it just talk with someone who not laugh on me provide solution.pls assist ne
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