Maybe you can experiment with different "toys", and see if any of them can elicit pleasurable sensations for you? I rarely have orgasms anymore, but I still enjoy stimulation.

A toy I'm eager to try out is called a violet wand. My friend swears by it!

Or
"come hither you pot-bellied stallion."

After having a number of symptoms and a whirlwind of doctors with conflicted opinions, I was dx'ed with Guillian-Barre. My sex drive was near non-existent after my twins were born 3 years ago (yes, i know it's a long time). Now, it no longer exists and with me being on Celexa, which is notorious for killing the desire, I am now feeling like I could care less for it. My partner is very understanding but it makes me feel very guilty since we are so young. This is not a mechanical or physical problem either, so toys or other things will not help. It's just that mentally I no longer want it hardly at all.

Hockey said: "a partner who doesn't always understand the trials of our daily lives can lower desire. "Come hither, you big, insensitive clod." See what I mean?"

ROFLWMP (literally)

Over many years I discovered that lack of desire did not mean I couldn't get aroused. I finally realized that turning down sex with my beloved was making him unhappy and I stopped saying no. It was amazing how our relationship, and his sensitivity, improved after that. No longer fearing rejection, he bloomed. I am lucky -- he is gone, and I have sweet memories and no remorse about loving words unsaid.

PAIN = STRESS, and chronic/intractable pain = chronic/intractable stress.

Aside from pain itself, many of the medications used to treat pain, including but not limited to ALL opioids, supress adrenal hormones, which negatively impact libido (desire).

Testosterone is just as important to women's libido as it is to men's - just in much lower levels.

Google: testosterone libido
Google: chronic pain hormone therapy

Properly balanced hormones can also have an effect on controlling/reducing pain itself, and a long list of other symptoms. It's a simple matter (blood test with fasting) to get levels on all the adrenal hormones, from pregnenolone (the "mother/master" hormone which is a precursor to all the adrenal hormones) on down to estrogen/testosterone, and then supplement the ones that are too low.

Doc

PS: Catma, don't forget to change your drawers!