This woman is nuts! Does she not understand that in most cases intimacy is private. In fact that is one of many definitions. I would certainly ask the teacher to define it herself and name 2 people she was intimate with. The fact that she asked the students to name 2 people is just wrong and none of her business - whether the "intimacy" was sexual or not. I would like to think that the teacher discussed the various definitions of intimacy BEFORE she gave the students the handout.

What's even worse, she's taking it out on your DD. Not cool at all. She is the grown up and needs to behave like a grown up and set an example to the students. Also, it's been my experience with DDs that we had the option to opt out of that portion of the class. They send info to the parents and the parents can make the choice of whether or not they want their child in that part of the class. I allowed DDs to take that part of the health class and we had many discussions based on the class. If at any time I wanted to pull DDs from the class based on what was being discussed, I could.

Good luck in your fight, Patti! Let us know how it goes.

Well, the principal called me yesterday. I don't know why it took a call from the superintendent's office telling him to call to do so. (which smile indicates sarcasm?)

He spent more time making sure my last name was really Christmas then he did discussing the issue. He told me he talked with the teacher, and "they" decided that my daughter would be given full credit for the review sheet she and I filled out. He also discussed how the school is one of the first that has offered a 12 week health/sex ed class, and are trying to following Michigan's newly formed structure. I asked him if he read the review, and he stated he had it in his hands. Of course, he had difficulty removing himself as a teacher from the intimacy question until I informed him that when I spoke with the secretary at the superintendent's office as well as another parent. He then agreed and gave in to the fact that it could indeed be worded differently. I told him that the crap the teacher was doing to my daughter, and he said that she wasn't trying to make my daughter feel uncomfortable, that my daughter is a very strong, intelligent student and that she would not receive any negative grading for this class. I told him how my daughter failed an anatomy test Friday afternoon (the day all this stuff went down) because she didn't want to be with the teacher, and that she didn't want to re-take it because she would have to be alone with the teacher.

He then started brushing me off the phone - oops, I just looked at my watch, got a meeting at the superintendent's office, blah blah blah. To me, if I were "principal", when I received the first email last week from a concerned parent, I would not have taken so long to get back with the parent. I also would not brush the parent off. If it wasn't a brush off, why wouldn't someone in his position make sure he had "time" to talk to me? If I feel well enough, even though today is the last day my daughter is in this class, I am still thinking about going to the school board meeting tonight. I might just call my daughter's friend's mom and ask her if she and her husband are going. If so, I will definitely drag myself down there...

I'll keep you all posted - sometimes, you have to teach your kids not only what right from wrong, but to also stand up for what they believe in. If I do go, I plan of taking my daughter and having her address the school board.

PLEASE go to the school board meeting. being dismissed by the very folks that are in charge of protecting and educating your daughter is NOT a good sign. They need to know that you are watching, and you are keeping score. You DO check every peice of home work, and assignment that comes home with this child, as well as discuss ALL activities that happen on school grounds. This is UNACCEPTABLE! Make sure you ask for your child to be allowed a make up test for that anatomy thing.

Go get um! grrrrr!

If you speak with him again I'd try and record the conversation. Some states that's not legal unless you notify the other party but you can check and see what your states laws are.

This question is soo out of line!!

sometimes I really wonder what these teachers are thinking when they come up with lessons and things like this.

Almost sounds like they are just being nosy and wanting to dig into kids lives. To see what they can find out.