Thank you for the response and kind words. This will help me in preparation for court. My kids are now 16 and 12. I have always done the best I can for my kids. I paid child support every month on time before I got hurt. My girl doesnt come visit much since she is 16, she has her own life now but she knows we love her. My son comes as often as he can - at least every other weekend if not more when his mom lets him. My wife has no problem with me seeing the kids. I wouldnt have gotten to see them if it hadnt been for her after I got hurt because my ex-wife never brought them over. My wife paid for gas to get them and take them home. She paid for groceries and entertainment and bought them birthday and Christmas for 4 years. She loves them like her own. We hug and laugh and have a blast when he is with us. He wants to move in with us so that is our next step.