It is impossible for me to work, because I am disabled. That should be obvious.

If I will get taken off my benefits immediately for not receiving treatment, how come that has never happened yet in over 10 years? That also has never come up during my reviews.

How do we find out what my wife's income is? How do we GET her income? Everyone tells us this, but never tells us how to get it.

I have been to the local office scores of times. Sorted nothing out.

What you think is obvious, what I think is obvious has zero to do with what SSA considers obvious, which is pretty much nothing is obvious and everything has to be proved. If you haven't seen a doctor in 10 years, you are self-diagnosing and that never works during a Continuing Disability Review. You have been lucky that a CDR was not done. That luck may not last forever.

I thought you said you had just started receiving benefits but perhaps I misunderstood because you talk about reviews in the last 10 years. Were you getting SSI only and then SSA discovered that you should have been getting SSDI? So it could be that SSA figured out that you were insured for SSDI and only recently took the SSDI application and only recently entitled you and then used then adopted the disability decision on the SSI claim and not have had to again prove disability. That is also called a legal term collateral estoppel (may have spelled that wrong).

I was referring to reporting the income that your wife already receives since it could affect your SSI benefits. It is also possible that she doesn't make enough from her jobs or whatever she uses to support herself.

If she wants to file a claim for spousal benefits on SSDI and you want to file for the ten children the two of you have and , she needs to make an appointment and bring everyone's birth certificates, proof of who has custody and the marriage certificate. If these are stepchildren to you, you have to prove that you supported them in the past. You may not be able to prove that. Also, not all SSDI cases result in a family maximum that is over the amount paid to you. Sometimes children and spouses get zero. In those stacks of letters you have received, perhaps there is a denial letter for spousal or children benefits.

SSDI is not a welfare program so there are no provisions for what you need or want to support your 12 person family. If there is not enough income from the parents, then the choice is other welfare benefits like TANF.

If you have been to the SSA office scores of times, the likelihood is that everything has been sorted out correctly but you don't like the results or don't understand them.

No. I got everything the same day. SSDI and SSI. No clue about all the other things you were talking about.

Where does my wife work? How do we get her money?

SSDI does not have spousal benefits. It is just the opposite. It is spousal deduction. Which makes no sense.

We have 3 kids. Not 10. And no number of children give you "spousal benefits".

Why should we receive a denial letter for something we never filed for? Or for something that does not exist?

If you are on either SSDI or SSI, you automatically are disqualified from from programs like TANF.

What is it I do not understand? Or do not like? I came here for help. It seems you are the one who needs assistance...

There are potential family benefits for SSI/SSDI recipients with children. http://www.ssa.gov/dibplan/dfamily.htm#fmax

And those that receive SSI often automatically qualify for many welfare programs (it varies by state) like SNAP.

I suggest you find your paperwork, or call the offices you have talked with and ask for copies of your paperwork.
Then you will know more about your case/claim/status.
Or signing up online might be an option to see your records/paperwork.

There just isn't enough basic info on your case/claim for anyone to help you, so we can't really answer your questions.

You paperwork does not state your disability on it. I think that would be discrimination per ADA.

Neither does one's online account.

When an applicant is awarded a Fully Favorable decision, it states what disability or disabilities qualified them for benefits.

I have been told many times that family member do not receive any benefits at all. Unless they also qualify as disabled under the SSA criteria. My wife is disabled. Just not under SSA standards. At least at this time.

I would never get disability for my children! There is a mandated treatment program. I don't want the government telling me how to raise my kids.

I provided a link. If you read it, you would understand I was not suggesting that you have your children apply for disability, but rather that SS provides additional funds for a beneficiary's children and/or spouse caring for children. There is no requirement that the children be disabled, or receive treatment, and nor will the government tell you "how to raise them" anymore than a citizen not receiving benefits. The money needs to be spent on them and not on the other adults living with you, but that is not an unreasonable expectation. If you are unable to manage how the benefits are spent, a representative payee should be considered.

If you are unable to understand this information, than contact SS directly or an advocate. If you have a legitimate claim, your children could be entitled to substantial backpay.

FYI There are two computations done with the earnings record. One is the PIA, primary insurance amount and the other is the FMAX, the family maximum. In disability claims for individuals who have just enough earning to become insured, the PIA can equal the FMAX which means nothing can be paid to the children or spouse. Best way to find out is to file a claim.