How odd that I'm not worried about him. Maybe it's because he destroyed our relationship. Maybe it's because he has always managed to land on his feet. Always, in 10 years. Never on the street. Always had a roof over his head, a computer, a tv, etc.etc. without EVER working in his life.

Amazing isn't it?

Melody

No I think he was just lucky. Hope it doesn't run out. ginnie

He's been lucky for 10 years. He snaps, they jump. I don't get it.

But it is what it is.

You take care

Melody

I am sending a hug from one mother to another I am thinking about you right this moment and sending you a valentines. I am blessed to know you, and grateful I have another mom to talk to and confide in. I really do appreciate you.: Have a good valentines day, hope it is happy and peaceful. ginnie

Do you know that I prayed for you and your daughter. How odd that we have met. Anyway, thanks for such kind words. Happy Valentines to you too.

Sincerely with affection

Melody

How are you today? I was in the sack early to read a book. I hope your valentines day had some hugs in it.
I have come to believe, that we all found this site for a reason. Call it divine, whatever. I think this path opened for you and me, because we had a little miracle. I sure had a need to know of another mother that has lost a child, due to reasons other than passing away. I had a dream last night, where I was fighting off a bad person to be able to see my daughter. I was screaming!
I try not to think about her during my waking hours as it is painful even after almost 10 years. I keep her letters that she wrote to me before all this mess. I truely wish I was able to put this to rest, but I don't think it will happen for me. I hope that you can make peace within yourself. I do believe I did the best I could do as a single parent, but I still wonder what I did wrong to deserve this from her. My psychologist friend did intervene on my behalf as he was a family friend, and he could not expain her behaviror eithor after several meetings. I did try for sure.
His advice was to go on with my life, that she had been turned away from me. He could offer no explaination as he was her friend all during her youth also. We use to go out and fish in his pond as a family. He was close to her too. So we both struggle at times. I still pray for her. I do for you to Melody. I don't know what else I could do.
I think about you, and care. Have a good day, and do something nice for yourself. ginnie

Well, yesterday I took my husband to the podiatrist and we showed him Alan's new shoes. They are off-loading shoes because he has a re-curring Foot Ulcer due to his having neuropathy. He's not diabetic by the way. All the doctors now feel that his neuropathy stems from SOMETHING going on with his back. He has had all the x-rays, etc. I've posted the results on this forum a long time ago. But they won't operate and he is looking (maybe) into one of those spinal stimulator things.

And tomorrow night we are going to the Peripheral Neuropathy support group meeting in NYC, and they are having a pain management specialist giving a talk.

Should be interesting.

Thanks for thinking of me. Sometimes the only place to move is to MOVE ON!!!

Not easy I know, but sometimes we have to do this to maintain our sanity.

Melody

I think it's far more common than most people think - perhaps even the norm. I'd be hard put to think of a family I know where this isn't the case. In almost every case, at least one party has no idea why, and/or cannot understand the whys no matter how (or how many times) they are explained. Is this denial? Other times they are never explained.

I think television is, in part, to blame - not for family schisms, but for the fairytale belief that they are rare or easily fixed. We've been subjected to decades of the Andersons, Cleavers, Stones, Nelsons, Bradys, Huxtables... ad nausem, where things like this never happen (except the first season of Happy Days when Richie's older brother went upstairs and never returned... [cue Twilight Zone music]), and all domestic issues can be nicely tied up and resolved in 30 minutes or less (like delivering a pizza ) - INCLUDING child molestation! (episode of Diff'rent Strokes - Ok, that was a 2-part episode - 60 minutes, 44 without commercials)

I've experienced it from both sides (actually 3 or 4 sides). I don't have any answers. I have only perspective and the belief that not everything that is broken can be repaired.

Doc

It is true that not everything that is broken can be repaired. You do have to move forward even if it's painful. I try very hard to forgive and tuck it away. ginnie