Thanks for the links, and your support. They've become helpful already.
I've registered in the Rutgers group and have had a relative talk with someone at the 800 number at the Reeves site. All of you are giving me what I meed most - prayer and places to go, to be able to get a grip on this situation. I'm still in shock.
I saw my son last nite and he's awake and alert after 2 surgeries anterior and posterior at C-5. He's agitated, uncomfortable and wants the intibation out. He thinks he'll be able to breathe on his own without a tracheostomy. I'm trying to find out if the docs will try to not 'trache' him.