What would you do?

reyn · 10-13-2009, 07:55 PM

I'm back to edit -- to explain that I wrote this "what would you do" as a way to talk about some of my problems but be kind of silly about it. I'm not facing everything on this list, and I didn't mean to mislead you. I'm sorry.

What would you do if:

a family member calls and asks for financial help
your child's doctor asks you to decide whether or not to go forward with a gastric tube
your siblings publicly attack your spouse
your spouse abuses you (emotionally, psychologically)
your agoraphobia is disabling
your relatives only contact you when they want something
you witness (in some form) child abuse
you have black-out periods
you are told that you can no longer drive
you suspect that the radiologist was lazy and pulled up your parent's file and then used that to "fill-in-the-blanks"
you care deeply about someone but you don't have the skill set to convey your feelings
you don't trust your spouse or your siblings
you are told by your doctor that you need to get your affairs in order
you are accused of malfeasance but can prove otherwise
you know that you are mentally ill
you have evidence of elder abuse
you are told that the "chemo brain" may be a permanent side effect
you could choose to leave this life
the 'phone rings, caller I.D. shows it's the one person who has hurt you or betrayed you the most
your pet is only content sleeping in your bed
the gecko is in your den
your neighbors are illegal aliens
your neighbor parks the vehicle with out-of-state tag facing into the garage
your nephew lied to you to get several thousand dollars in order to finish college
you can't get your photos to "upload"
your plants will die if you don't bring them into the house
you can't remember what you did last night
you are thrilled that you were able to sleep for 10-11 hours
your family is in agreement only when discussing your faults
your contractor/carpenter does a poor job of repairing/replacing the rotted wood on the exterior of your house
you could set up a charitable organization and keep only enough money to pay your basic bills
you could choose, after death, the method by which your remains are disposed
you failed to acknowledge a thoughtful gift from an online friend
you don't have a clue how to mend fences
you are alone and need help
you think this post is stupid

Wondering what I would do . . .

Alffe · 10-13-2009, 08:44 PM

Not sure what you should do but I know me well enough to know that I'd get mad...mad enough that no one would have any doubts about how I feel about any of them.

And how would this help, you ask?? Well, it probably wouldn't but it would make me feel more in control. You have too much on your plate reyn but then you already know that...little of it was of your choosing.

reyn · 10-13-2009, 09:16 PM

((Alf)) That I could talk with you and my family here is, I think, what I should do for the time being.

What would you do if:

you discovered a copy of some of your photos on an old Zip disk? LOL!

Alffe · 10-14-2009, 05:53 AM

than that is exactly what you should do reyn!

If I found old pictures, I'd be a lot thinner and younger.

Nik-key · 10-14-2009, 02:55 PM

Dear sweet ((Reyn)) I dont have any answers for you but I did want to let you know I think what you have already done is a major step. Talking and sharing, that is how we stop ourselves from being consumed in the pain.

That is one massive list, so much pain and too much for one to carry alone. We all have our lists, I know I have mine. What I try to do is to break it down into smaller increments. I try not to dwell on more than my mind can take at any given moment. Easier said than done I know, but we are here for you

tamiloo · 10-14-2009, 03:20 PM

I wish I could help with some of them...I'm caught up in money problems...family could help but don't want to...

reyn · 10-14-2009, 05:12 PM

I edited my first post to explain that I'm not facing each and every "if situation." It actually turned out to be good therapy for me to write out all of those things and think about a variety of issues that many people do have to face and decide what to do. Maybe it should have just been part of a "wonder" thread?

Alffe, you're right! Me, too -- plus my hair was thick and curly when it first began growing back. LOL!

Nik-key and Tamiloo, thanks for caring.

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