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11-15-2015, 05:26 PM | #11 | |||
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And another bump for the cup analogy!
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11-16-2015, 05:04 PM | #12 | |||
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In a person's life, the water in the cup is symbolic of all the hurt, pain, shame, humiliation, and loss not dealt with along the way. The last couple of drops symbolize the "trigger events, the last straw, the event or situation that preceded the final act of taking one's own life. Often we want to blame the trigger event, but this does not make sense to us. Like the water, these events all by themselves would not cause someone to end their life. It is the combination of everything in that person's life not dealt with and the last one or two things that caused our loved ones to lose hope.
For us, we must find a way to pour out the water along the way. This may be through talking it out, writing it out, sometimes yelling it out, whatever works for you. We must learn to deal with our pain in a way our loved ones could not. This analogy does not give us the concrete answer many of us are looking for,, but I know it made sense for me and has been helpful for many survivors. It allowed me to let go of the search for "why", and to find a different way of dealing with my pain. National Resource Center for Suicide Prevention and Aftercare Link Counseling Center
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11-16-2015, 08:23 PM | #13 | |||
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Very insightful and full of hope.
I agree with this theory. I have been adamant about dealing with matters when they arise, rather than avoiding them while hoping they will go away. I am often met with resistance on this. Yet, I know how important this is to my well-being. Too often, issues don't just go away. The difficulties tend to compound with time. The burdens continue to compound and feel too big. The cup overflows. If we understand this, we then know how to limit the burdens, how to keep the cup from becoming so full it overflows. We can help ourselves, and others also feeling overwhelmed, by taking a look at what's already in the cup and managing the contents in a healthier fashion. Thanks so much, Alffe! DejaVu
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11-26-2015, 08:40 AM | #14 | |||
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Sometimes we go through life just doing all the motions. Asleep in fact. I was like that in my not so good old days. Staying awake and listening to that little inner light is profoundly awakening. No matter how grinding the days get remember that you can focus on that inner light in all of us and get through it. Recently I heard someone berating a friend of mine because she would not take time off work for some occasion. I had to remind him that her father is dying and she used up her vacation days to say goodbye to him. Another wise friend told me that you never know what someone is going through by looking at their outside. So look inside of them and then you can be truly compassionate. We all have an inner beauty.
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12-03-2015, 09:29 AM | #15 | |||
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Want to say to You AAAWESOME STUFF may your days be bright Thank you for helping me in the "why" Even after leaving a letter to us Still blaming to the very end Beautiful lady That's who you became Love Me
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07-08-2016, 06:50 AM | #16 | |||
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Where is the compassion
Where is ones heart when watching a man bleed to death To hear the child call out to her mother I'm here for you mommy If she was five If just that age Why Oh why To have our fellow humans Be treated in such an inhuman manner We are hunting each other For what What is the end result of such increadible hateful racist behavior Why did that child sit and be worried about her mommy The men are dead In two days Just like that And not any officer to help him not bleed out What is wrong with the police in this country I worked along side many of them For many years And there is the unspoken behavior The rules in house Rather then follow the books The law as they were taking that test Then the ones who by putting on the uniform a change happens And not for the better I have heard in certain groups Especially during my waitress years And in the end working for my then town of fourty six years I live in a predominatly Hispanic and dark complex not necessarily black live in fear My history growing up as a child Born in South Africa Durban Exposed to separate ways for the black and white Nothing has changed Strip us all of our color We are human Here to love and be loved in return We cannot do that We are judged by our color Weight Smell Status Religion Beliefs Money Money Money Age Mental illness The sick When the child is born What does that child need to make it The love of one another Will we ever be at a place where love rules Not hate But love rules Where is the compassion They are born into what is taught This time I don't think it's going to be that easy Sadness so deep Done Me
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07-08-2016, 12:19 PM | #17 | |||
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