Tabby it's way too early in his hospitalization to know if he will cooperate, take the prescribed medicines and go to group therapy...assuming they do group at this hospital. This is so scary for you...I'm glad your mother is in the picture and is a support for you.

How long have you been married if I may ask and is he working? You know that you cannot let him hold you hostage with the threat of suicide...that won't work for either of you. None of us can be responsible for another persons life...it is and must remain their responsibility...I understand that you love him and want him to come home and be well.

Paul Quinnett, in the book "Suicide The Forever Decision, talks about a bug being trapped in the bottom of the cup. He says,

"While human beings are bigger and supposedly smarter than bugs, I am not so sure of that, when it comes to getting ourselves out of the cups we find ourselves in, we always do a better job of it. Once we are into a particular set of problems, I am not so sure all of us can think our way out of them - at least by ourselves."

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And that's why I am glad that your husband is safe for now, in the hospital, getting professional help. He might not like being there but it's where he needs to be.

Please know that we are here for you.

The visit went well, He was very sick when I got there and he had been woken up in order to visit with me. I talked to him for fourty five minutes till he asked me if he could go to bed cause he didn't feel well. He had been throwing up (four times). they have him monitered every four hours drawing his blood and urine tests. He also started his meds for getting better. Tonight i just talked to him he is no longer sick they have him on a nicotine patch in order to keep him from having withdrawals from cigarettes. He also now has clothes, some pictures, two cards and a teddy bear from me to sleep with. I love him and he is doing so much better. Great news is he said that if he keeps on the track hes on he might be able to be released monday instead of thursday of next week. He is hopeful. I am too. He is doing so much better. okay so now a list of the meds he's on
Acydonir-400 mg twice a day
Abilify-10 mg at bedtime
EffexcrXR-150 daily

He is much more mellow! I love him and will keep you updated I get to call him in the morning and then I get to visit him everyday this weekend keep him in your prayers and hope he gets better. he is starting counceling the moment he gets out he is willing to continue medication too. I love him and thanks for all the support

Tabby

Dear Tabby

thanks for checking in.

it sounds like your husband is being well looked after. i am glad he seems well-intentioned about meds and counseling when he comes out. it is a good start.

he is lucky to have you at his side.

you take care of yourself now too. get yourself some rest. baby yourself a little. wrap your arms around yourself and give yourself a hug. (physically do it, it feels good.)

~ waves ~

Thanks I will post again tommorow he is improving a ton he even said it was good i did what i did

Really good advice Waves!

Tabbycat, it was SO wonderful to meet you in the chat room tonight. You are incredible--do you know that? As someone else said, you have enough on your plate with your own depression--but I am so thankful that your husband has you. I hope he continues to get better and that his mental health state stays stable. Hopefully now that he is back on the medicine, he will feel a bit better. Keep on loving him and doing what you're doing... and if you ever want to chat, feel free to message me. Take care!

This is just the best news Tabby...I'm so happy that he's progressing so well.

thanks so much Sarah Mae it was great talking to you I wouldn't have rushed off but I was gonna call him one more time to check in. I am so excited I get to see him today. I slept great last night knowing he is doing better and he loves me so much and isn't mad at me! well I will keep you updated!

Thanks Alffe me too I can't wait to see him today and give him some deodorant I love him so much! I know its great news hopefully there is a happy ending in my husband and my story!

LOL! Can't wait to give him some deodorant?! LOL

Great to "hear" your happiness!