Grief has a life of its own. It surfaces according to its own schedule. If we are too busy for grief, if we deny it, we cut ourselves off from our emotions and we become smaller. Our grief gets small too - tighter, more compact, more intense, more explosive. It's best not to get too busy for grief. It's best to be open and expansive and available for all our feelings, including our grief. They won't take up our whole lives or all of our time and there won't be more pain than we can bear. If we give our feelings time and space to express themselves, there will also be time and space enough for us to go on with the rest of our lives.

Friends for Survival Newsletter, June 1994