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11-13-2010, 08:11 AM | #1 | |||
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* Be aware of how traumatic an event in life this is! This particular kind of death, the act of taking one's own life, is usually unexpected and can be violent. The worst has just happened! Nothing rocks one's foundation like this kind of loss, calling into question one's beliefs, values, relationship with a Higher Power, and one's own assumptions about the world!
* The aftermath of a suicide can feel very turbulent. Some survivors feel completely shocked by the loss, feeling numb, and blind sided. For some, the feelings of anger or anguish can be intense...like there may be no end to the tears. Many survivors feel out of control of their emotions and fear breaking down in places that aren't safe. Some days it is hard to even get out of bed. Progress is one foot forward, one day or minute at a time. * Coping after the loss and the tasks of grieving can be exhausting! Many go over and over the days or weeks or events precipatating the suicide. It seems like a necessary process to exhaust those questions: Why? How did I miss this? Why didn't they come to me? Why didn't I see the signs? Would of, Could of, Should of? Profound sadness may accompany yearning for a different outcome and knowing we don't have a chance to do it over again. * Healing is a process over time and best occurs in the context of supportive relationships. Survivors can experience a gamut of physical and emotional symptoms. I often say, one can not get enough support! Some seek individual therapy or medication if the symptoms interfere with life functioning. But what we hear most at the Survivors of Suicide group is that by telling one's story over and over and feeling the feelings with a group of people who have been there and understand like no onelse, can be a very valuable tool in one's recovery. Jaacqui Wilhelmi-Carpenter, MSSW, Clinical Substance Abuse Counselor, SOS Support Staff SOS of Dan County Newsletter Oct. 2010
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11-14-2010, 02:52 PM | #2 | |||
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If there is anything I have learned in these years of "belonging" to the SOS forum ... its that the impact of loss needs to be recognized and continually acknowledged.
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01-12-2013, 11:28 AM | #4 | |||
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on a lonely mountain road contemplating what should occur Ends? Had the means for some awful reason had felt compelled to believe ends were the path to pain o'ercome Not so the whisper in my ear as I sat alone thinking, churning, fretting Don't you think your wife is worrying just now? God was right. That ended all contemplation weapon sheathed engine started hit the headlights home where I was and remain LOVED without question Thank you God consequences pondered aid one at the brink to back away grasping HOPE |
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01-13-2013, 08:16 AM | #5 | |||
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Thank you Mark...."if only" always comes to my mind. I have always believed that He was right there with Michael when he pulled that trigger.
Did He not whisper...did Michael not hear...I have accepted the outcome but as a mother...I should have known.
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01-13-2013, 09:58 AM | #6 | ||
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I understand the feeling that you should have know I feel the same way,now oldest son being stupid again,he did this crap last year,and last night started it again,so I have been up all night whaighting for him to show up at my door in some messed up shape he is in after a failed attemet,not sure where he is this morning,praying he went to a friends house
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01-13-2013, 10:13 AM | #7 | |||
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I'm sorry you are having to go through this again katmae and I pray that he'll come home, having learned something.
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01-13-2013, 01:20 PM | #8 | ||
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Katmae, Sending prayers. That he comes home soon.
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01-13-2013, 10:25 PM | #9 | |||
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Love restraineth not
but embraces the loved in ebullient outpouring of affirmation the one who is loved rises strong in our mind as that presence who is a blessing then he has to open his heart to recognition pain is fleeting life is fantastically rich while the mass of humanity surrounding each of us who cares is crying out for one who will survive to BE a living sacrifice for others because in pouring selflessly from our well of spiritual waters we heal from within since the balm we would pour out upon others who hurt will always ever without ceasing bring healing to our own hurting soul. I had to learn this and internalize it then experience and express it bountifully through which my heart was forever sealed unto God as a vessel for helping others. I, who would destroy myself to bring eternal end to my temporary pain had to be shown deep within the pain will ebb and the fantastic JOY which wells up surpasses all pain I had ever felt within my psyche. In my family the husband to a darling niece would not hear and is now absent. If only to open the heart and mind and ears of your son God will inspire recognition maybe, just maybe, your son may rejoice I have it was not easy at first but then the road which is hardest and has the most twists obstacles holes boulders to circumnavigate presents the greater treasure in finding its object had the road been too easy I might not have realized its importance Glory to God for making it just difficult enough so I would yield. Thus I pray for you and your son, Amen, Mark56 |
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01-13-2013, 10:40 PM | #10 | |||
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How can one know the depths of the mind
of the bearer of torment? God can I saw my family knew but surviving as all crumbled around us to rubble was so much for them to handle it was me and God God and me I HAD TO YIELD anything else was selfishness on my part. Might you have known as his mother? Possibly. The hands were his though and he had to be willing to yield as I had to be willing to yield [oh God, the tears are streaming down my face right now] surrendering that within me which would scream I hold the key to my life was the means to deliver my spirit unto God for until that moment although I had "practiced" faith and love and charity it was hollow and meaningless without complete surrender I had to give it up my life definitely in the firm grasp of God now the balm for my soul which could allow God's great work of healing within this shattered being Selfishness had to go. You were not responsible for your son yes you loved and still love him immeasurably yet, the surrender of soul had to come from within him a choice you could not make for him just as my beloved wife could not make the choice for me. Probably more than anything necessary to healing for we who remain is a sense of forgiveness to those who went before by their own hand for in selfishness they brought temporary pain to conclusion in a way which deprived others of the blessing of knowing how survival might shape the heart the spirit freeing LOVE to be expressed boundlessly. Oh, that we might all be able to forgive those who willfully departed so healing might overwhelm us the ache of absence will not depart but the wholeness which comes through forgiveness will swell hearts to overflowing so we may move forward. Now if we can only help those who are tempted to examine selfishness to abandon self pride to grasp the almighty who is the means to everlasting joy we may have the blessing of aiding still another who should avoid the very decision with which the deceiver had me wrestling in that oh so lonely dark place of life. I choose life through Christ who enables me. Loving all of you, Mark56 |
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