bumping this for ginnie.....page 3.

I read the article you sent. Yes my deep anger is out and going. Not being able to see my grandchild, or my daughter, is more than I can or will bear. I am still waiting for the judge after 6 weeks. I sent another letter off to him last sat. What he said, and wound up doing are two different things. No paperwork yet, and after a 9 year struggle to find a way to survive, he has not responded to me. I will send the group of papers to my senator next.
I am also ready to leave my home. I have packed all my cloths I want to keep. and prepared all my documents. My son does try, but he is angry and resentful most of the time to me. He is replacing a back door for me so I do not flood out when it rains. I am a burden to him, the friend I live with and to society, as they nor foot the bill for my failure. I couldn't earn enough for insurance and raise my two kids alone. I could not put money aside for my retirement. My health failed, and truely I don't know if there are any other options for me, if I can't be released from this family trust, I will not be able to take care of this place. I also wonder why I have to pay taxes on a home in trust to me. It belongs to my son, why won't the gov. let him pay for the taxes as this house will be going to him? Instead they took away my social security check as I could not pay the taxes on the island home I have. Now I have to pay my son back, and then keep giving him this money for furture taxes. That leaves me with $296 per month, to live on and pay utilities. Can any one you know do that if they are in a house? It does not cover the cost of my utilities, much less for any upkeep to keep me safe. My family took over $200,000 from my parents, and they leave me in the condition I am in, not caring one bit. My mother thought the gov. would allow me to keep my monies, and still get help. NO, she was wrong. The Gov. would not help unless I had under, $2,000. So the money I was to use for the taxes and upkeep were used instead to keep me alive with my health conditions. The Gov. will not let your family help you with your bills in any way shape or form. Why does the Gov. insist we become destitute before they give the help WE EARN.???????? After 10 surgeries, and lousy family, and more trouble ahead, I am loosing hope. This judge has not responded anymore. So what now I ask myself....Any ideas of what I can do to keep this roof over my head? Shall Sally sell sea shells by the sea shore on saturday and sunday, to earn my utilities? I would be required to report that anyway. This all is lousy, and I am fresh out of what to do...always ginnie, thank you for caring. Truely Alffe I feel sick inside about all of it.

It is very lousy ginnie! I was so hoping for better news. I would definitely contact my Senator and my Congressman. Could your local newspaper be interested in doing an article about $$ and healthcare as it relates to your circumstances.....people don't like to be in the "lime light" unless they are doing the right thing!

I'm so glad you responded here...I was getting worried. Please remember that we care about you and please stay in touch. Continued prayers for a just and fair outcome.

thank you alffe, I do know you care and so do others. I just wish there were a way for all of us to be neighbor and help each other out. Nobody does anything for free or just to help. People rally for a tragic tornado, or hurricane, but what of all the little storms people are surrounded by? I do feel like I am up inside some storm, and I am getting battered around viciously. This situation will have a resolution, one way or the other. I will take it to my senator this next week. I don't have the ink cartridge for the letters right now to copy. There is nine years of information to pass on to whomever might help. The lawyer who wrote the trust did not know anything about how the government agiencies work, therefor had no knowledge on how to protect me from that same government. He wanted the money from my mother and did not stop to consider and future occurances. All he could see at the time was a family gathered around my mothers death bed, all getting along just fine. That was until the trust information was released. I was relieved of being a human that raised my children when the money and homes was distrubted to my two adult children. Taking is all they know how to do and I cannot figure out what I did wrong in raising them. They were raised to be generous, kind and loving toward each other, and me. What happened? Where are they when I stumble and fall? What happened when I got older and needed them? We all get sick in life, nobody is exempt from that. Where are they when my tears are all that I have left? No we are stuck in some horrible family battle, all over money money money. Every body out for themselves. This is why a future seems so hopeless. Just where am I suppose to go? A project? I can't pay for utilities there eithor. I am sick to death of my whole situation alffe. I will go to the senators office, and keep trying for awhile, but I have refused now, all medical intervention. Most of the specialistsdo not take medicaid, so I can't afford now the 20% I need for my care. So I am going to stop all care and medicine until this issue is resolved. Why try to keep my health when I have no future anywhere? This is what I worked for and raised my kids for? 30 years of effort, and I am reduced to nothing but tears? This isn't worth it, to live under this kind of pain from my family, on top of all my medical issues. I appreciate the group hug, and I will be back when I hear something good. In the meantime, I hope you are all doing OK, and able to deal with the issues that your lives present. I am not the only to be going through he__. I care about all you too. ginnie

I don't know where you live but there is government subsidized housing where you pay NO utilities. Rent is figured on income alone. Some people pay $10.00 a month and some pay $300.00. If there is any such place in your area I recommend that you check it out. Thinking of you.

No ginnie, 296 a month is not enough to live on. Barbo gave you some excellent advice and I hope you can find subsidized housing in your area...moving there would give you one less thing to worry about while you are fighting for what is rightfully yours. My heart just breaks for your struggle...it isn't right.

Oh dear Ginnie... how I wish I could say all that I'd like to but I don't have time as I am rushing out the door to a job...

PLEASE go to a woman's shelter... you can and you will help yourself dear friend...

you are a woman

drum up the strength, please, to reach out to other women - they can and will help you!

More excellent advice from Addy...

And remember wren posting this;

1-800-799-SAFE

............................ is an incredible number

It's a safe number to call if you are abused in any way - physical or emotional.

They can probably give you the phone number of a local clinic that can help you so many ways ....

They can give you a safe place to go, even take you there.

They can give you gentle, kind counseling in a safe place -

They are available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

If you need legal help, they will help you find it.

If you make a scary trip to court, someone will be with you if you need it.

You can meet other women just like you (if you want to) in group sessions.

Not every area has such a local clinic but most do.



** Thank you Wren for this information.


And ginnie, you are being emotionally abused!

another bump...good information

I believe that most people doing suicide attempts do already know the people he/she would be leaving behind. During my attempts, I was so depressed and in so much pain, I honestly believed that I was a terrible person and that all of my loved ones would be better off without me!