not much?
too many people with high anxiety and stress
it feels like terminal insanity?

my boyfriend was put to sleep because of liver cancer...
his choice?
but to me same as suicide

so i must say suicide - has a bad name it needs upgrading to
hospice!

love you alfeeeeee...

True, Lou lou, but who determines the criteria for a hospice situation?

And I love you too lou_lou but I'm not sure I understand your comparison of suicide and hospice. I've found hospice to be full of loving, caring, people who volunteer their time to be there for the dying. No one wants to die alone.

Well I tried to edit that and couldn't. I should have said most people don't want to die alone.

Hospice is there to help & support the family and the person who is very close to death.

They aren't there to hasten the end, or do the deed to stop life....
Unless all parties had agreed to that , but still they shouldn't have participated in assisting that way....

My brother in law died of liver cancer - his progressed very quickly and was non treatable. He preferred to die at home and not in the hospital.

We deal with hospice quite often where i work.... They are a huge support to the family of the person who is dying. They also help with the persons medications, personal needs, and there for moral support.
If a person is put on hospice care that means everything has been done to cure what ever is wrong, and they agree that there is nothing else to do but let nature take its course. It can be anything from cancer to alzheimers to any other disease. My dad had diabetes and was on hospice. They were a blessing to have around to help us.

My grandfather had multiple cancers and died at home with the help of hospice. While watching him literally die was painful, it was much better than suddenly getting the Call. I was able to grieve over a long period of time rather than all at once.

(((Lou Lou))) Tied had what I think is the correct response to this..."it is possible to hasten the end of life through the use of meds at high dose. sometimes this is a kindness bestowed."

That is what happened with my sister when she was dying from metastatic breast cancer. In fact, when the doctor told her (we weren't there at the time) that there wasn't anything further to do...she requested to be 'put under' and kept under. She was scared and didn't want to be conscious when her time came.

And that was what they did. They kept her basically unconscious with meds...I'm assuming high doses of morphine. Eventually your body will give out that way. The drugs aren't used to kill them, but to relieve all of their pain in the kindest way possible. And their bodies and spirit eventually give in to whatever the disease is, probably hastened somewhat by the use of heavy narcotics.

But my sister did request that. We never got to say good-bye to her. She didn't want to say good-bye to us. She asked the doctor to do this before we came in for our daily (day-long and night-long) visit with her.

So please don't think that he was committing suicide. He was finding relief from his interminable pain.

I hope you can find help soon.

Been thinking of you a lot.

You've been dealing with so much for so long and from such a young age. You're such a talented woman. For 10 years or so, I guess, I have so admired your work and especially your tenacity!

The more I read your posts here the more I am confused though. Please don't give up. You're a fighter. We all know that.

If son can't look after mum then someone else can and I'm sure that they can help you.

I don't want to see your life hastened but I would love to see it more comfortable. You're a very special human being.

<sigh>