Andy I so admire your positive attitude sending positive thoughts
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You're right....tomorrow is a new day. With each new day, the pain will lessen. Learning new ways and new moves will help as well. Unfortunately healing takes time and patience. Soon you will be "out and about". Just taking longer than you had anticipated. Gerry |
A quick update, which is a little more positive this time... I have forced myself to do some walking & it appears to have loosened things up a little... I am out of bed now & managing my days in my front room, which is brilliant... Small things we take for granted become massive when taken away from us... I have managed to keep on top of my dishes too, which is great... Cant do any more than that yet, but the small improvement feels massive & hopefully the start of better things to come!
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Andy,
Thanks for the update.
Maybe just one new thing to try each day. Like maybe even go for a short walk. Some fresh air might add a little extra push to the next small adventure. Of course, from experience, you know better than to overdo things. Gerry |
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Another quick update. Feeling a little more optimistic lately as managed to reach my walking target. It was only a short walk, but it felt like walking to the moon. Im aware that there is a lot of negative thoughts & feelings on this board, certainly from myself, so just wanted to attempt to tip the balance with a little positive news...
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Congratulations on reaching your walking target, Andy. Keep the goals attainable, but just stretching you enough. Nice to read a positive Post from you.
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Yeah!!! So happy to hear about the walking. It feels so good when you start making those gains. Keep up the good work!
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Keep up the good work Andy. Positive attitude is a real plus.
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I hope everyone is well.
A quick update; I am able to walk slightly further distances & doing a bit more around the house... Nothing too major, but improvement is definitely there, albeit slowly, & that gives hope for the futute... I am determined to get some life back next year & already have a job lined up if I can get enough improvement... Victor not victim! Love to the room... |
Well done Andy Pablo.
Gosh, you've had quite a journey haven't you. It's very good to read your positive update. Take care there. :hug: |
Hey Andy,
You should Post your positive comments on the Villa website, get them motivated :D Joking apart, it is good to read that you are making plans for a future with less pain and darkness. Dave. |
Haha! If Petrovs story cant motivate them, nothing will, lol...
Cheers all. There is still a long way to go, but with improvement comes hope & little by little, 'me' starts to show through again... |
Pain fluctuates like a beast lately... Hugely frustrating to feel like one takes two steps forward & then get pushed five steps back... Had to go back on opiates to help cope, which then slows the mind & frustrates further... Stressed & frustrated...
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Sorry to read this Andy. sending positive thoughts your way for a lessening of your pain. :hug:
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I'm sorry that your pain has gotten so bad that you've had to go back on opiates :hug::hug::hug: I hate the trade offs we sometimes have to make in order to fell better and to function.
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Pain has come back as severe as it ever has been. Gutted doesnt even begin to describe how I feel... Really starting to lose hope now... My Granddad passed away last week. We knew it was coming, but it still doesnt prepare you for it... And then the family bickering starts... Is it wrong that I dont want to see or speak to anyone? Sorry, I needed to get that off my chest... Just feeling a little lost at the moment...
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So hard when physical pain is what we deal with 24 hours of the day seven days a week How many years now It all happened one night getting up from a nap to go to work I thought I awakened with a stiff neck If that were only the case Now retired from ever being able to work Even on a part time basis With time I need to lie down Tough when family misbehaves in a child like manner Amazing how real colors emerges when a family gathering happens It most certainly is You can be certain to protect yourself by doing whatever possible not to have to deal with things you aren't interested And you are not being disrespectful Infact it is a unselfish act Think about it Really think about it on a larger scale May you be blessed with a miracle and your pains be lifted Through my next faze in life I have gotten to know our Heavenly Father And through ALL MY PAINS I wouldn't have it any other way It is exactly how my Heavenly Father allows For the devil needed to ask our Heavenly Father if he could (excuse MY vulgar tongue) f with Job So honestly Who RULES In Jesus I trust In God I believe Not easy fighting the fight And what we HAVE TO WALK AWAY FROM love Me |
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It's not wrong to not want to see or speak to anyone, especially bickering family members. Everyone deals with loss in their own way. You are already dealing with severe chronic pain, and that can sometimes lead people to isolate themselves, too. Please be kind to yourself :hug::hug::hug:
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My pain has fluctuated so much in recent weeks that I have no idea what is going on... I just want it to settle as when its low, I feel like I can move forward, but when its high, I cant see how I could possibly get my life back... Its frustrating to be mentally ready to take on the world, but the slightest overstretch puts me back in bed... I am no fun anymore. My sense of humour has almost gone & I am losing the battle to find "me" again... I can see myself pushing everybody away & not sure why... I am exhausted...
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Of course you're exhausted who wouldn't be . Hang tough dear man and know that you're not alone
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Thank you Alffe.
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Gentle hug (Andy)
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Just a quick message to say that things have calmed down a little past couple of days & my mind has been put at ease for the time being... I have no doubt that there will be further ups & downs in the future, so have to appreciate when things arent so ****... I tire more every day & it feels like I exist rather than I live... C'est la Vie... Will keep plodding along until hopefully things get better... But after three years so far, that light at the end of the tunnel becomes more dim & distant... Thank you for being here & giving support to myself & many others... Know that it is appreciated...
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While asking my old boss about a job for a friend of mine today, my boss asked me when Im coming back. I had to quit my job nearly three years ago & they still want me to return. It is so frustrating to be given the opportunity to have a life again, only for that opportunity to be snatched away by fates twisted sense of humour. I am not sure whether to be happy that they still value me, or depressed that I cant return. The catch twenty two of my life. There is a strange numbness & resignation to these repeated knock backs. I miss my job. I miss my life...
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Be happy that they want you back and be depressed that you don't feel well enough to go . Hugs
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Andy,
I can well understand where you are coming from. Really nice to know your old boss thought enough of you that you would be welcomed back; but it's a reminder how much the mind is willing; but the body won't cooperate. The best the body will do for today is what I try to focus on; otherwise the "downers" take over. Keep on "plodding" along my friend. Gerry |
Think Im just feeling a little sorry for myself at the moment. So many opportunities that I cant be a part of, while friends, family members & even those I dislike are all moving on with life & I am trapped... Just need to man up a bit, I think...
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Andy there is no man up
You let loose when you need to You have spoken the words for many You can and it happens to us every once in a while Watching the world go round and we are limited to be in it Oh how I know how you are feeling I have come to understand taking it one moment at a time And then I wonder what if I were working when Eva was borni had my second PCDF that took my life assoon aftr that my double mastectomy All this to happen and then Eva was born Into this world where mom is still active in her addiction What would have become of my granddaughter How things have a purpose and I have to move along as best I can I have become somewhat of a recluse Someone who worked with the public all my life Waitress 12 years full time to raise my babies Malicious behavior from the father of our babies A true DEADBEAT all their lives My eldest was just turning 4 she is 35 now My boy ready to turn 2 is 33 now My grandchild mother 3months old now 32 Then I have my 18 year old And finally my grandchild I see where I'm needed Worked those and many years after nights Rarely did I have jobs in the 9-5 hours Those were the corporate jobs My last 12 1/2 years with the city I lived in for 46 years Gone have zero benefits after getting sick Retied from life as I knew it It still freaks me out to say "Retired" Long story fighting the following I should be eligable for "early retirement disibility benefits" of my pension deptartment Back on point Oh heck There are only a very few who get it I have no close friend Many acquaintances Many All I can say for certainty Is Heavenly Father has been more felt in the last two years. Than ever before in my life As Christ lives in me And I'm not in anyway trying to shove this down your throat It is just my personal experience But as you said about your place of employment are looking for you too "when are you comeing back" You were speaking of that it went through this cookie veins also And many others I am sure The thought that comes to me when I start feeling sorry for myself is when there was a sport I would play Volleyball in the sand And to not ever be able to grip the sand with my toes Feel it under my feet like that ever again Now I worry about clots having to spend so much of my time laying in bed I get up every single morning getting my grandchild off to school now Do what I can around the house unti I can't anymore then retire This is about you I keep talking of me Sorry And YOU letting loose has zero to do with that Man up mentality You are a human being experiencening these spiritual emotions And feeling a little sorry for how the situation is now is allowed If you want to scream at the top of the tallest building mountain or in your head It's okay I hear your pain of it "ALL" Every aspect of ones life Changed overnight Just like that Hand in hand As I offer you mine Hang on as we fight the fight So many horrible things that comes along when one looses their health under whatever circumstances It hurts It hurts To watch them all Move on with the world Hang on Andy Hold my hand as I extend it for you Be safe in this world Andy I hear and understand every single word expressed There is no man up to anything You matter Love Me |
Thank you for your kind words Eva. And everybody. I glady accept your hand & support. I offer my hand to you all too... Again, thank you...
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I think a lot of people identify themselves by what they do, and that makes things much harder when they can't work because of a disability. Most people want to serve a purpose, and interact with others in the workplace.
I often feel stagnant, and left behind in life. It's a lousy feeling. I know that my disability is permanent. I know that it's hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel when you're in pain and suffering, but if there is a chance that your disability could be temporary, please try your best to focus on your potential recovery. Of course that does not mean that you're not entitled to your current feelings- they are justified. Since your boss is still awaiting your return you must be one hell of a worker ;) It's nice to know that they will roll out the red carpet for you when you are ready to work again, and I hope that will be soon :hug::hug::hug: |
I keep trying & I keep failing... I will continue to make the effort, but as my "recovery clock" ticks down, & this keeps happening, it becomes more & more likely that I will have to try to accept my fate... Im not sure if I can do that...
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Never any apologies It takes courage to write how one really feels This is how we know we aren't alone It is getting harder and harder It is real It is you Happy to know you It is a place I too share the same Not ever to hurt anybody Just to see if There is anybody else Or Is this just me Never any apologies My shoulder Broad they are So sorry Me |
Andy,
Most of us have been there; no apologies needed. Appreciate your sharing your thoughts and feelings. Gerry |
There is no need to apologize for sharing how you feel, and you have good reason to experience dark periods. You are fighting, and it's not always pretty.
I remember the fight to return to work over and over… And the tears that fell when I finally made the call to file for disability at 28. It was a long road to acceptance… You mentioned a "recovery clock" ticking down. What do you mean by that, Andy? |
I was given a time frame of up to two years for nerves to repair themselves once being freed from compression. If they dont recover within those two years, then the damage will be permanent. My surgery was fourteen months ago & every time I fail to return to basic activity, the time left for any repair gets shorter & shorter & my morale drops lower & lower... There is still time & I have not given up hope yet, but It becomes more & more stressful as I get closer to the two years... I beat myself up about being so weak to let it get to me, as its not usually in my nature... But maybe it is. Maybe this is me at my most raw & the real me... I don't like this 'me'...
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Adversity will change anyone to some degree, but becoming discouraged or experiencing depression does not make you weak. Your situation would test anyone.
Sometimes the situation we've found ourselves in has dragged us so far down that we need meds to help us get back up, and sometimes those meds need to be tweaked. Some people find therapy helpful. Getting psych care isn't a sign of weakness either. If you start to feel like you are really starting to lose morale, this might be an avenue to pursue, or pursue further. I'm glad that you haven't given up hope :hug::hug::hug: |
Hang on Pablo even when the road is bumpy
I Won't Let You Go James Morrison Lyrics - YouTube Best wishes... for a better tomorrow....one day at a time Man:hug::hug: |
Andy,
I so agree with Kay. Hopefully it will not be necessary; but should that be the case please know it does take time to accept and adapt. I know things took a turn for the better for me when I finally was able to accept my situation learning new ways to make the best of each day. I still have "downers"; but try not to stay there too long because there are things to be accomplished. Either way Andy, please don't give up. Gerry |
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