I am really disappointed in my sister that lives across country from me. I usually call her every day and have not called her in 5 days. She has not called me to check on me or anything. I was somewhat depressed the last I talked to her too about being so isolated. I don't know what I was trying to prove other than people could care less if they heard from me or not or else they would call me. And it also reinforces what my abusive husband would tell me over and over that no one wanted me to bother them. If someone doesn't have kids or grandkids it seems, they don't have anyone. I gave up having kids to care for my mom when she was living while my 2 brothers had their families. My whole family would gather at my house because it was the only wheelchair accessible one in the family for my mom and we had loads of fun. Funny thing, when my mom passed away, everything changed. Everyone stopped coming to my house and since I don't drive across town to their house due to PTSD the good times for me are over. If I do get to see one of my brothers who lives in town it's because I pay van fare to get to his house and back. Life seems so unfair at times.

befuddled2

hi hon.

you know...your sister might just be used to you calling her. she might not realize how you feel about her not making the calls.

some of us are givers. those around us get used to it and it never dawns on them...we need to be "given" to also. you sweet barbara....are big time giver from your heart.

just keep being the wonderful person we know and love. you aren't responsible on how others act.

Bless your very big heart, befuddled.
If you were MY sister or just my neighbor think of the fun WE would have and stuff we would have to talk about.
Like Chinese food?

They don't know what they are missing Barbara...families can have a lot of fun together. Even as I type this there is a huge family reunion at one of the neighbors houses...loud music, even a bus parked on the cultisack (butchered that spelling.. ) and the smells from whatever they are cooking are making both Mr.Alffe and me hungry.

Any interest in planning a big carryin dinner for them...hosted by you? Throw some hot dogs on the grill for the kids (I love hot dogs) Just a suggestion, everybody likes a picnic.

I'm sorry you're feeling down....it is so hot here everyone is running through their sprinklers...including Cooper.

Barbara you can be my sister any day.

You can be my sister as well. I miss mine as she passed December 16, 1986.

I agree with what Monkey and Alffe said. Your sister may just be used to you calling her. My best friend actually reminds me just a little of you. If I don't call her, she gets upset. I'm used to it being me the one who has to make the phone call gesture, but that's okay. We've been best friends for 42 years so whaddaya gonna do.

And I love the idea of inviting your family over.

I'm sorry you're so down. I still think a good therapist could do you a world of good to help you gain back your bruised self-esteem.