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Old 09-30-2006, 01:43 PM #1
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Please remember: To be angry is natural. To be angry at ourselves and others is normal. But to be so angry at another that you turn this awesome aggressive power on yourself is neither natural nor normal. It is, rather, an expression of the formula that frustration leads to anger leads to aggression.
And if you are not careful and smarter than the average bear, you may become a victim of it.

So before you kill yourself to "show" someone just how mad you are at them, consider that, should you succeed, your suicide will have created nothing, contributed nothing, and changed nothing. True, you will have made a statement about how angry you were, but ask yourself, "Do I have to say it this way?"

I hope not.


Excerpt from the book "Suicide, The Forever Decision" by Paul Quinnett
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The boyfriend of a best friend of my daughter's did that very thing in high school. The best friend was devastate as were the rest of their classmates. Although he did carry around other issues like depression. When he did this was right after the best friend broke up with the boyfriend, within a few days. She blamed herself for a long time but eventually came to terms with it.
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Hi Alffe~
Thank you for sharing that excerpt, which spoke to me in a big way! It is so true, the formula mentioned, and how one thing leads to another, to another, until it is so out of proportion nothing makes any sense.

I'm guilty of giving in to this kind of "stinkin' thinkin'"...many times over. You'd think I would get it! It's been a long time since I felt this angry, to the point of wanting to disappear, as a means of escape from the emotional pain. I'm stronger than that. Sometimes I faulter, and don't process this sort of anger very well.

Doody, I can relate to your post very well!! In my teen years, I had a boyfriend break up with me, and I thought I couldn't live without him! I tried to make him feel bad by attempting suicide. Stupid, stupid me...he didn't care, and left me to learn to deal with my abnormal emotional behaviors. One of the best things that could have happened.

Thanks again for posting such a thought provoking message!
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(((Alffe))) Hopefully my post about the Ad Council will come to fruition soon. It's my understanding that the first in the series about stigmas associated with mental health problems will be addressing the issue of suicide in young people.
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The novel I'm reading at the moment had exactly the same thing in it. The boyfriend took his own life outside his ex's house because he was so angry at her for ending the relationship.

To be honest, I'd never thought of anger being a prelude to suicide before. I'd always thought that despair was at it's roots. Thank you Alffe for making us think.
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I miss Kimmy
I hope she's ok... does anyone know how she is?
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I have lost her address, last time I heard from her on yahoo messenger she was very active on Second Life.

We'll want lots of pictures of that grandaughter of yours Addy.
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I've mentioned that jerk in my life in other posts. I wanted to kill myself to "prove a point" to him and make him feel horrible like I did. I thought about it lots. I still do sometimes. I want him to feel guilty and feel responsibility for his jerk actions towards me. I hate feeling that way. As a human, it doesn't feel good to hate. As well, it's exhausting.

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Sweet lil' sis !!

You expressed perfectly what I had felt more than once...

I have cut myself, hurt myself, tried to kill myself sometimes, because I wanted "that guy" to notice me, to gain his attention... Like "oh, she is in the hospital, poor majo !!"

And some other times, like you said, to make him feel guilty and also, to make him realize what he had lost...

The worring thing is, that sometimes hurting me makes me feel better even when that guy of course, simply continued his life...



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