what about if u have a plan for just in case but dont plan on using it its more like u r in power of your choice if u ever decide to is that weird to do :confused:

these r just questions ok

Hmmmmmmm...addressing stressors Ms.Doody? Well, I was going to wear something purple to the wedding but then I saw your post in FF. :D

*whisper....cybil..aren't you glad you asked? We all learned something. :p

Oh I understand totally about back up plans cybil...just in case. Really not that unusual. When I was severely depressed Mr.Alffe got rid of the guns...just in case. Hugs

thanks alffe (((hugs))) :)

Cybil -- Feb.'06 I had to have ~shudder~ surgery to remove a brain tumor, I had all sorts of tests and stuff to check how my brain was working before surgery. Last Nov. I had 4 hours of neuropsych testing given to record my memory, word finding, speech, problem solving, how each hand- left and right- worked, yadda yadda.
When that had been completed by a technician, I was interviewed by a neuropsych for maybe 30 minutes. One of her questions was, "Do you think about suicide?" I answered "Yes". She asked if I was planning on committing it and I said no. She said, "Good. Thinking about suicide and planning suicide and two different things, RIGHT?" We talked very briefly about the differences.
Six months after surgery I had to take the same tests AGAIN and answer the same questions ~groan~.

I agree with Doody that there is such a big difference in thinking, "I'm too wretched to get up. I wish I would die so I didn't have to". and "I'm too wretched to get up. I'm going to kill myself so I don't have to".

We all are happy to answer questions if we can.

thank u jingle i am sorry u had to have brain surgary :(

do every one here find it hard to talk about suicide in the real world. it seems to me people rather nnot talk about it so u have to be care ful not to speak about it they rather not hear about it or pretend they dont hear about so it kind of leaves u staying quiet about it so u dont up set people does that happen to u :confused:

It is difficult Cybil...I've often said it's a real conversation stopper even in the chat rooms. When someone asks me which forums I frequent I always preface the response with "you'll be sorry you asked me".

It took me years to be able to talk about our son's suicide...since I couldn't talk about his life I also couldn't talk about his death. I've been told that I didn't grieve properly..that I was just stuck in an awful place.

I finally got to the place (with a lot of help from some cyber friends) that I could face that "monster" and now some accuse me of never shuting up about it. :D

alffe i am sorry about your son i did not know that. people get uncomfertable talking about suicide and death. was that why your husband took away the guns because u were depressed about your son u told your husband u had back up plans just in case