[nohope]

While at the grocery store today, I ran into my oldest child's 3rd grade teacher. Remenescing of years gone by, I told him of the recent death of my children's father. He said he knew he was an alcoholic! Since my husband was able to pull the wool over everyone's eyes, I asked him how did he know. He said that my husband had visited the school to discuss the custody dispute and wreeked of alcohol. This is the first person to admit to me that they were aware and it really took me aback. I know you can't possibly understand, but I fought for years to make the people in our lives aware and I was outcasted. The truth is coming out and I am dumb founded. It took 5 whole months to get a court order that he not drive with the children anymore. 5 MONTHS!!!! No one believed me! A friend has come forward and says I had been vendicated. Now a teacher! OMG why didn't anyone believe me?

I am so glad you are all here and still able to listen to this. I am overwhelmed and every day there is a startling revelation.

I must talk and I find it easiest here. Thank you for listening.

By the way, all the music being tossed back and forth is really enlightening.
David, Looking4hope, you have so much to talk about. Carry on...............

[DMACK]

nohope


Sadly people hide secrets from their loved ones... often very well


You do not have to justify to anyone why you divorced... the reasons were between you and your husband. his family/friends must accept that

Be strong in your own mind that the reasons were valid..........Stuff ..........the on lookers they were not there.. they never saw... they never experienced what you did...

Their annimosity is their own guilt, that they probably saw a problem and never raised it with your husband... hence forth in their guilt or lack of intervention they blame someone else.......its called passing the buck

you are doing great nohope..............now concentrate on you and not proving you were right ........................Sadly your husband is no longer here... and when he passed away so did all the issues... if his family want to apportion blame.. let themm...they however are decieving themselves and they know it.

onwards and upwards nohope... baby steps.

Davd

[Alffe]

(((nohope))) I guess you could say that he had the last word..he killed himself. You got stuck with the aftermath as did his children. But in the long run..you are the winner because you survived it and are one tough lady. Your girls are so blessed to have a mother like you.

[ckepi]

It's amazing how people feel more comfortable admitting things after some one is gone.

Things you tried to talk about before that they couldn't/wouldn't admit too or face.

I'm glad people are coming forward and being honest, and that it is helping you. Some times its nice to know you weren't imagining it all.

I know I felt that way sometimes when I was the only person who "saw" what was going on.