I love the cup analogy also...

sometimes, I think, I need a bucket...but even with a bucket, it will happen sooner or later just like the cup...only delaying it...

Nik, so glad you are on the road to forgive him...it's gotta be hard...

I am so very glad that you and Alpho and others are posting...

I am learning from your posts...your pain, your anguish, your lost..

and that helps me keep myself in check...

much love to you guys...

((Moi)) Your stuck with me, I can't stop talking about it.... I need to try to face it, so my own "cup" doesn't get over full. Any time you feel you need to be kept in check, you just come chat with me:hug::hug:

Alffe, I know you have been where I am now.... perhaps even worse.... so I WILL trust you and your words "It will get better Nikki and stay better for the most part but it's going to take a long time." I plan on being here a long time! So that may just work out :) :hug:

Imagin my suprise at learning that the moderator (whom I have spoken of here before) of our local support group is going to retire in March. I'm anxiously awaiting the survey that's going to be mailed to surviviors, inquiring if there's interest in even having a support group here. I can hardly wait to get my hands on that......hope really does spring eternal. ;)

Alffe mom :cool:
bump bump up :hug:

((((big hugs))))

So (((Alffe)))... have you given any more thought to being the next moderator??? Helping suicide survivors is your passion. :hug:

((((Alffe))))....anyone in a group of yours would be most blessed....I wish I could transport my friend and her children next to you....I am fumbling with how to help her because now I am so far away from her physically and all I do when I talk to her is cry with her...it makes me feel so helpless

Mist...*grin. The most important thing you can do for your friend is listen to her...listen with your heart which I know you do so well. I am amazed at how quickly people tire of the grief we survivors feel. Let her tell you over and over. "It" just spills out of my dear neighbor because her close friends have heard it once and think she should be getting over it. Her son killed himself in March...hardly time to be over it.

And Doody, no I don't want to run that group....I want to help run it. The Moderator should have a degree in Grief counseling IMHO...my only experience is as a survivor.

But I do thank you both. *grin

Now I have to go cut the grass...I can hear it growing!!

Thanks Alffe, I have been so wondering what to do...I will call her today...and I am off to make breakfast......