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Being very sensitive? I think maybe I am too ? But funny thing I dont like to be called that in fact i try to hide that part of me as much as possible. but I know how horrible I feel if /when I make another feel badly or I hurt anothers feelings. I think it is the one thing in the whole world that really bothers me and I hate myself when that happens .I always try to make people smile or laugh. I hate when others around me are hurting or sad and even more hating myself if I am the cause of another saddness or hurt or ill feelings. I will be the one trying to lighten the load or lift the spirits or reach farther then the last one..
But I would never call myself sensitive and I wonder why ? Do I find it is a weakness in me? Why would that be a weakness it should be a plus.
Alffe Mom thanks for sharing Michael .

Yeah I was a Tomboy kinda girl.and hummmm maybe even then that was my way of hiding how sensitive I was / am ????
Yikes I better not think about that to much.
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Alpho,

always glad that you share about Michael...in private...I know I have said that with every post that you had/have posted about Michael, I think you have saved many lives...

I love Kahlil, he's one of those people that really HITS it on the nail so many times for me whenever I'd read his work.

"A Tear and a Smile" is still something that I'd read from time to time...just to chew on his thoughts and words...

mist,

you bring such a calming voice to it all even with all your struggles...you JUST have such a gentle way about you...you don't BS yet when you lay it out, it just is so soothing and calming even though inside you there are storms raging...I dunno how you do it..



twinks,

you have such a sense of humor and are very positive...I am so glad that you are opening bits by bits...it shows another side of you that is just as wonderful...you have been a great listener to many and perhaps now it's time for us to listen back...

David,

the physical tears do wonders yet I have become like you, I have become very desensitized...

I used to cry a lot when I was a kid...and half as much when I was an adult...being a "man" I was taught to not to cry...but I have very developed tear ducts...so I couldn't help it...

but in the recent years...I have been having problems "shedding" tears as well...

not sure what it is...I am mentally tougher, I do know that...

I used to apologize to everything and everyone...I was the type of person that if you'd step on my toes, I'd apologize to you...and then I'd get really angry afterwards thinking, "hey, why didn't he/she apologize to me??"

I also used to bump into posts...

in the supermarkets where they use those steel posts to hold up the buildings...

I used to run into them by accident and then I'd go, "excuse m...." then I'd blush and run away because people would stare at me like I am an idiot...

these days, when someone bumps into me. I smile first...and I say, "are you OK?"

If they apologize, I say it's OK...if they look at me as if it was my fault...if I was in the mood, I'd tell them that they need to learn some manners (that happens rarely though)

if I was not in the mood, I just give them the "death glare" LOLOL

But I still apologize to posts and beams because I find that they are more polite...

doxie, glad you could join us...would love to hear more from you

Addy, you always ADD A LOT to others lives...in all you've gone through, you have shown such strength and I feel like we live in parallel universes because when I hear some of the walks you've talked...I can only stand up and applaud you...I am so proud to be your friend!

nik, everything your sister has said is so true...

I can only concur with what she's said about you...your love and strength and warmth and kindness touches many hearts and lives...

yes, there is anger within you, yet within those anger, there is something else about it...you've always show us that there IS another side, a brighter side no matter how dark it is...and that is something that is so hard to see when we are in the fog ourselves....

you shine the light, dear friend...

BMW,

your courage in all that you've gone through and yet you are here giving your love and your heart and your artistry in your writings (as well as mistiis)
it reflects how special you are...

you are always kind and thoughtful to others...

we all make blunders...we all have made people that we love angry at times...

but because they love us back, they understand and forgive, just ask moss how many times she's been mad at moi...LOL

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truly, you all are warriors, each with your own gifts and a lot of them cross over...

but what is great beneath it all is the heart to give...that kindness to give...is what makes a difference in other's lives...

I believe we all are sensitive...I think those that say they are not just have been hurt to the point that they have shut others out...

sensitivity IS good...and whille it can be its own worst enemy, that sensitivity
, just like the fabrics, can be pulled, mended, resewn, patched up, or really, be recreated into something else totally different yet just as beautiful...

this is a tapestry...the fabric...patterns abound...yet souls set free...

weave, my dear friends, weave....
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We got to see him sing this Friday night in Indianapolis...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P0WIJ...D9CAEC&index=0

Thousands of people in the stadium and you could have heard a pin drop.
((Alffe)) This brought back so many happy memories, it was almost painful. Lynn and I use to watch the Gaither Vocal Band all the time. After his diagnoses of Alzheimer's, when he was still aware of what was happening to him.... we watched JD Sumner's sing a song... Lynn cried, so unlike him. He said, when I die, at my service please play this song. It is the only time he has ever mentioned anything. Ever.

This brought all those memories back, Lord but I miss him
For anyone who would like to hear it... here is the song
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7HPUryHzCcQ


Lyrics.........................................

The Lord still lives in this old house


If this earthly tabernacle should be dissolved today
I'd trade it for a finer one, that would not pass away.
But till the day arrives when it's time for moving out
Tis such sweet peace to know the Lord still lives in this old house.

The sweetest fellowship I've known has fortified these walls
And peace has reigned since he's been walking up and down these halls.
With snow upon the rooftop now and these hinges near worn out
It's such a joy to know the Lord still lives in this old house.

To him it's been a dwelling place where he kept my hand in his
To me a home away from home, is all it really is.
It sure ain't fine and fancy and all I can boast about
Is after all these years the Lord still lives in this old house.

Now there were times he had the right, just to up and move away
And there were times and days I knew it took God's amazing grace to stay.
But he never left this old building once, that's why I can sing and shout
Cause after all these years the Lord still lives in this old house.

To him it's been a dwelling place where he kept my hand in his
To me a home away from home, is all it really is.
And it sure ain't fine and fancy and all that I can boast about
Is after all the years the Lord still lives in this old house.

After all these years the Lord ... Still lives in this old house
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Oh ....tears here..can't tell you how much that link meant to me Nikki...
I have many of their tapes, cds,..but not that one!! I've "bonded" with your dear Lynn...
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Tears here too.............. Dad could sing this song so well.........
I think this is part of the reason I had such a flare yesterday, too much crying. I miss Dad, and though Lynn is still here, I miss him too. Who he was, who WE were. I told my family today, I feel like a married widowed at times. Just breaks my heart. But, love him I do, then- now- and forever.
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Being very sensitive? I think maybe I am too ? But funny thing I dont like to be called that in fact i try to hide that part of me as much as possible. but I know how horrible I feel if /when I make another feel badly or I hurt anothers feelings. I think it is the one thing in the whole world that really bothers me and I hate myself when that happens .I always try to make people smile or laugh. I hate when others around me are hurting or sad and even more hating myself if I am the cause of another saddness or hurt or ill feelings. I will be the one trying to lighten the load or lift the spirits or reach farther then the last one..
But I would never call myself sensitive and I wonder why ? Do I find it is a weakness in me? Why would that be a weakness it should be a plus.
Alffe Mom thanks for sharing Michael .

Yeah I was a Tomboy kinda girl.and hummmm maybe even then that was my way of hiding how sensitive I was / am ????
Yikes I better not think about that to much.
the fabric the fabric....
Thank you to everyone for sharing and talking.
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I've read that 15% to 20% of people are Highly Sensitive People (HSP). There is a book,and websites about us Highly Sensitive People. They say it's normal for us HSPs to be sensitive. I know I'm one.

I believe that it is also a gift of compassion. I believe it is a virtue,and not a weakness. Sometimes when I'm close to someone who is hurting,I feel a flash of pain streak through me. I have gone over to people after church,and prayed for them. I have prayed for people in other places. This sensitivity is a compassion for others.

This sensitivity also hurts us sometimes. BF
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WOW!!! (((BF))) I have had that same experience. And that's kind of hard when you are a nurse. I didn't know that other people felt that too.
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I imagine it's difficult for the nurses,and doctors to be highly sensitive people. To feel the patients pain suddenly flash into you,or something like their pain, has probably caused many med.school students to drop out. Nurses have probably chosen different jobs. They may get use to it.

I don't see how a HSP can work in a SPCA. I just love animals. If animals where being put to sleep,I'd have a heartache every day.

My family told me all of my life that I was super sensitive. We are not the only ones. I use to hide my sensitivity,and I still do from time,to time.

It's probably always good for the patient. The sensitive people are more concerned. BF
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Pat, I want MORE for you....acceptance is a huge thing and I so admire you for being able to...a lot of people never get where you are now.
Inner peace can be lonely but just hollar out...we are here for you.
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Going to bump up this old thread just because.....
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