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soxmom 02-03-2009 07:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Alffe (Post 459515)
Sox I'm sorry. Did you know, at age 12, that he died by his own hand?
It's so common to hide this information from family members. :hug:

No...I didnt know.........They told me at 18 when my dear grandfather
tried himself.:(

Alffe 02-03-2009 07:49 PM

(((sox))) Hopefully in todays "market" it isn't such a huge secret! I'm so sorry....a gene thing maybe?...have you read Blue Genes?
The author Lucas discovered years later that his mother had completed suicide...it was kept from the family...and after he finished this book...his beloved brother completed the same. :hug:

Koala77 02-03-2009 11:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Curious (Post 459521)
.......Not everyone feels ok to share their personal story or stories...........

I've shared some.

I shared with you all the fact that my first cousin took his own life with a gun. I shared that my own father attempted suicide and failed. That was the day he was told he had cancer.

In September my husband lost his 16 year old nephew to suicide.... his brother's only grandson, and this last week I shared with you what happened when a patient of mine took his own life at the hospital.

Suicide has touched me on more occassions than even the ones I've mentioned here, but I'm not ready to share any more yet. Every time I share a little bit more, it stirs up the memory, and every time it hurts that little bit more.

One day................ maybe.

Alffe 02-04-2009 10:23 AM

Only when you're ready Anne...you don't need to be "stirred up". :grouphug:

who moi 02-06-2009 12:37 PM

soxy and wizzy, I am so glad to see you guys here sharing...not that you have to...(((BIG HUGS)))

Anne, (((BIG HUGS)))

you're right, ole curioso....suicide touches everyone....

I have often thought about how one day, who and how we'll have to explain to the grandmoisses about the suicide of their real Grand Father....

and HOW that will affect them......the only thing we can do for them is to give them tons of love and let them know that we're here for them.....

and Alpho, close to 10 years after you've started the suicide forum, I wonder how many lives you have touched....lurkers, non-lurkers...

I'll bet 100's if not 1000s....

:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: for the room...

Alffe 02-06-2009 03:26 PM

that's very nice of you to say moi. :hug: You told me once of the staggering number of lurkers you came upon here....mind boggling.

I still shaking my head over a small insert I clipped from yesterdays paper..about a new support group here in my town for "adults who have suffered the loss of a loved one, or who may be a survivor of a homicide victim." ?????

They will meet once a week...which is really really often for support groups...and I'm going to call and make a few inquireys once I collect my thoughts. :confused:

mistiis 02-07-2009 09:50 AM

Its hard for us to realize sometimes what this forum can do. Its hard to see it, but, I know, that it does help many people. And, I am one of them. And have been going waaaayyy back. :grouphug:
It has a dominoe affect, you help one person, you help many more and so on.

Alffe 08-16-2012 05:42 PM

old thread bumping up because there is another small insert in both yesterdays and todays paper about a research opportunity at our local college (IUSB). They are looking for volunteers who have lost a loved one to suicide and would be willing to fill out questionnaires for their study. Volunteers would be paid 15.00 per session and would be provided with helpful resources. I'm going to pass this time around. ~sigh

Just heard on the national news that Army suicides have doubled this last month and those asking for help are so numerous they can't handle them all. ~sigh~ Scream....tear hair out~

www.cbsnews.com http://www.cbsnews.com/1770-5_162-0....type=cbsSearch

Alffe 09-05-2014 07:55 AM

I am bumping this old thread up yet again because I thought I "knew" everything there was to know about suicide after losing Michael in Jan of 1990. I have a library of books on it, I have "counseled" neighbors, fellow church members, started and attended support groups...etc. How wrong I was!

This is a generation decision. Unless you are willing to journey through the grieving process of losing a loved one to suicide, you will impact your own children, you will hand that horror down. Seeing this happen in my own family is a great sorrowful revelation to me and I seem to be helpless to intervene.

When someone refuses to discuss it, or read about it and claims that "works" for them, that is how they handle it than that is the end of the conversation.......except....what about my great grandchildren!!!

barbo 09-05-2014 07:23 PM

alffe
 
Yo can lead a horse to water....


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