It sounds like God's timing is perfect...as things have escalated with the disease's aggression (not Lynn's) , an answer comes unexpectedly!

I, too am a nurse, and one of my best jobs was working in an Alzheimer's unit at a wonderful facility. I was there 10 years and watched the dilema of loving family members struggle with both the relief and guilt with placing their loved ones in a home.

I agree with the other wise words and add my own encouragement to accept this as a timely gift.

Lynn may get to not know your name or relationship, but I promise that he WILL know that you love him. He will be safe and there will be activities and features there that will give him a quality of life that would be hard at home. (Right, Vicky?)

I love the way Curious put it, "You will get to be the wife and friend to Lynn. Not his nurse and caregiver. "

We will be here for you, whatever you decide.