just wondering how things are going, dottie...

I am not doing well. I am holding it together for Alissa, but I am so profoundly sad. I don't ever remember a time in my life that I was more depressed.

I feel so alone. Even with my family surrounding me I am alone.

What can we do to help?



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I know how you have to have so many emotions running through you.

Wondering how your own child can do this...not take care of their own...
How you can raise a little one...

All kind of things.

There aren't always answers right away, if ever.

I do know grandparents like us and the Moi's, are who we are, because we can and will take these children. Love and devote ourselves to giving them the best possible life we can.

I'm here for you. I hope you know that.

Sending you some love, and letting you know that I also am here for you should you need a shoulder to lean on, or some-one to talk to.

thank you for your kinds words, I am just a bit overwhelmed right now. I don;t regret for one minute having her,this is what I wanted.

I just wonder about her future, my sons future and my future. Things are not looking good for my son. Of course now that he is cleaning up he can't believe what he has done.He is very remorseful, but I am having a hard time understanding how it happened in the first place.

I know that pain meds can be very addictive, I've gone through withdrawals when I stopped and I was taking them as prescribed. My son has never been in trouble and is now facing at the very least 15 years.

I want to get him out so he can spend sometime with Alissa before he goes to jail, But part of me is saying you reap what you sow. I am so conflicted.

..........My family says let him rot! Nice

Even though I am angry, he is my son and I love him and know his actions over the past 6-8 months were not him but the drugs. But seperating the two is very difficult for me as it seems it was for him.

Thanks for listening...........it helps to "talk" to unbias folks.

Dottie

Thinking of you there, Dottie. Been thinking of you all day. I read your message earlier, but didn't have the 'words' to reply. I'm so sorry for all you are all dealing with at this moment.

I totally understand when you say you feel so conficted and that it is so overwhelming. He is your child and your mind must be in overdrive right now trying to figure out how it all happened, and what is going to happen in the future. It's probably difficult to sleep as well because you're unable to stop thinking. It's more than sad, Dottie, it's totally devastating. I understand why you feel so badly.

Keep strong. Keep talking. *heart

Not nice at all.. As a mother my heart just goes out to you Dottie. Our children can disappoint us and break our hearts but they are still a part of us..please know that we understand how life changing this is...saying that you'll be rewarded in heaven won't change a thing today. And as always, Gibran comes to mind...http://www.katsandogz.com/ongiving.html

Dottie, he is not going to ROT.

He is going to get help. He will be given rehab and an opportunity to further his education or learn a trade.He will get counseling.

He won't be just sitting there rotting. Believe me....my daughter is NJ...her long time bf is a prison guard.

He can get letters and pictures. Phone calls and visits. A chance to better himself.

I am glad you are angry at him! He needs that. So do you. He doesn't need to be pacified andhis hand held. He screwed up and is going to pay the price. He will come out a man.

I'm going to PM you...some personal stuff I can't post about. Lurky family members...ugh.

Keep talking!!

(((Dottie))) I am watching this happen as well to 2 different close family members. Not to mention my best friend Penny. Seems to be happening a lot more lately.

Always in my prayers dear lady.

Just wanted to leave you a and