As many of you know I have been trying to convince my son to give me temporary gaurdianship of my grandaughter.

He has been abusing prescription pain medication. As someone that has suffered with chronic pain for years and jumped thorough many hoops to be treated properly this angers me to no end.

Well the good news is I have her with me now. The bad news is my son and his girlfriend have been arrested. They are both charged with obtaining prescriptions illegally by ( Doctor Shopping.) They are also charged with trafficking. I guess in addition to taking meds they have been selling them. ARRRHGGGG!!!!

I'm not sure how long I will have her and I'm not sure what my sons future will be. At the very least he will get sober, not by choice of course. The ironic part is yesterday morning they both signed up for an out-patient treatment program.....too little too late! sigh!!

The 2 children his girlfriend had before they got together are with their Dad.

I have to go to the jail today and get a temporary custody order signed by both of the parents so I can get the baby medical treatment if needed.(wish me luck)

I have no plans to bail my son out....I know that sounds harsh, but I truly feel he needs to be right where he is for now.

I feel bad asking anything of you all, as I am not always around to lend support, however any prayers you can send up for us would be appreciated.

You've got my prayers for sure.... and i think you are right by not bailing him out..... sounds like he needs help and hopefully this way he'll get it..

This might be just what they need to straighten up.

Dot your I's and cross your T's. Get everything done legally. Don't just get covered for medical. Be sure it does mean Temp custody. Also that they have to get custody back.

I can PM with you more about this.

Iknow this isn't an easy subject to post about. So much that I can't post about, but I'm sure you know I raised my grandson from an infant.

You are big time in my prayers. The whole family.

Dottie I'm praying for you all. Your grandaughter is blessed to have your love.

hey dottie,

I had a hard time hitting the thanks button...but it was hit because of what an awesome thing that you're doing for your grand daughter...

I am from the school of tough love and I think you are doing the right thing...

I wish I have some thing prudent to say or something wise to say...

((((BIG HUGS))))

I wish for peace and tranquility and happiness for you...I hope that will happen for you...

lots of hugs Jaded I totally agree on the tough love. Hang in there. You are in my prayers.

(((Dottie))) ... will be thinking of you there with all that going on. Keep strong.

Your grandaughter is blessed to have you watching over her - like her special angel. Take Curious' advice and document everything in case you need it in the future. If you can avoid the "system" it would be well advised, but keep a journal with dates and events, etc just in case.

I agree with your decision with your son, as well. Usually addicts don't get the idea gently, unfortunately.

((((hugs)))))

thinking of you, dottie...

that documentation thing curious and moss mentioned...

VERY true....

((((BIG HUGS))))

It does seem tedious, but it needs to be done.

You can go online and see what your states requiments are to become a foster parent. Those are some of the best check lists to follow. All the childproofing ect.

I know it doesn't seem fair. They don't check out the people before they have a baby. The state just doesn't want a child to keep going through this.