I've learned that you can do something in an instant that will bring heartache for life.

I've learned that I am responsible for what I do.

I've learned it's ok to cry.

I've learned that heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done regardless of the circumstances.

I've learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you are down will be the ones to help you get back up.

I've learned that sometimes when I am angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I've learned that life isn't always fair.

I've learned that I can become the instrument through which change can take place in my family and my life.

I've learned that your family won't always be there for you but people you aren't related to can take care of you and love and teach you to trust people again.

I've learned that it is ok to grieve and feel the pain of my losses.

I've learned that my life can be drastically changed in a moment's notice by people who don't even know me.

I've learned that no matter how good a friend is, he/she is going to hurt you every once in a while and you must learn to forgive them.

I've learned a lot from the woman above me....

I too have learned a great deal from ((Alffe))

I have learned I do not have to know someone in the flesh; to love them in my heart.

I have learned, and strongly believe- that it takes more courage to ask for help than to lay drowning in your tears.

I have learned that healing happens in it's own time, not mine.

I have learned there are times when you must stand alone; but that your friends will be right there for you should you happen to stagger or fall.

I have learned that all hope, is never truly gone. It is just lost among the shadows, waiting for you to find it.

I have learned that in life’s greatest tragedies, one can, and will, find how deeply others care for them.

I have learned there is no such thing as insignificant problems.

I have learned to embrace my anger, instead of run from it in fear.

I have learned how not to be afraid of the dark.

I have learned that no matter how much I wish it so, I can not be all things to all people.

I have learned that doing the right thing, is often times the hardest thing.

I have learned that one person may not be able to change the world; but that I can change the world for one person.

I have learned I must do my part to make the changes I want to see in the world.

I have learned I can not see the miracles of life, if my sight is focused inward on my pain.

I have learned that God does not abandon me, when I abandon Him.

I have learned that to forgive someone else, I must first work to forgive myself.

I have learned kind words can echo throughout another's soul.

I have learned that sometimes, love just is not enough.

I have learned that even the greatest of heroes, have weak moments.

I have learned that love is more powerful than even death.

I have learned that even the darkest of nights a light is shining somewhere.

I have learned that even in the shadows something beautiful lingers.

I have learned that the tallest of mountains started from a small little rock.

I have learned that even a little bitty rain drop sometimes really hurts.

I have also learned that if you see the little bitty rain drop before it hits... you may just see a rainbow.

I have learned that the tallest of mighty oaks start out as a little nut.

I have learned that even an eagle has to be taught how to fly.

I have learned that laundry doesn't get done by itself.

I have learned that even honest words can break a heart.

I have learned that I sometimes need to think before I speak.

I have learned that miracles really do happen....we just have to be ready to receive them.

I have learned that music can soothe the soul and break your heart.

I have learned that hugs hurt my body but heal my heart.

I have learned that I can still love someone even though they are no longer in my life.

I have learned that one smile can start an avalanche of smiles.

I have learned that in your 30's you feel like you have learned how to somehow deal with almost anything life can throw at you. In your 40's and 50's, you start to re-think that. In your 60's-life can be about having to start completely over in trying to make a rule book that you can use-trying to figure out how to make life make sense-almost like doing your teen years full of angst all over again-(only with a lumpy bumpy body this time! lol)

I learned that everyday is a learning process.....

-I have learned lots of things thanks to the people in this site...

-I have learned that time is one of the best medicines, among love and frienship

-I have learned we have to give time to time...

-I have learned everything, EVERYTHING can be solved...

-I have learned I can feel terrible sad/bad for a moment and be laughing the next one...

-I have learned every dawn gives us a new chance....

-I have learned I can enjoy insomnia....

-I have learned I dont have to forget my past, but I should stop living in it and live today...

-I have learned I have to live day by day, stop thinking about the future I dont know...

-I have learned I need to stop thinking on what I already did, but I should think about what I can do today to solve what I did in the past...

to be continued....

((Alffe)) I want to thank you for this thread. It's excellent! I was finally able to go to bed around 7 this morning... my head full of the things I have learned in my journey with grief.

WOW I LOVE LOVE THIS THREAD...such wisdom and beauty. How fortunate I feel to be among such gifted friends. I can relate to all of them:

I have learned that God will hold you when no one else can and lift you up to walk one step at a time.

I have learned that in every joy there is a sorrow and that in every sorrow there is a joy.

I have learned that pain is a gift. All kinds of pain, it makes us reach. It allows us the gift of helping another.

I have learned that very deep pain will not kill but deepen our heart and Soul.

I have learned that there are times when I need to be loved instead of to love.

I have learned that within the darkness, light is waiting to break forth.

I have learned that even a very small act of kindness, in love, can save a life. We don't have to be heroes.

I have learned that no matter how sick or dark I get I can and will grow beyond it and be the better for it.

I have learned what it means to have true friendship, to give and to receive. I have learned that true friends never leave you in the bad times or the good.

I have learned how to share joy and pain.

I have learned how to forgive and the beauty of freedom it bestows on the heart and spirit.

I have learned that the rain nourished the Earth so the flowers can spring forth. There is a time for darkness. It allows us the beauty of recognizing the light.

I have learned that deep pain is part of LIVING and not to run from it but to share it. There is beauty and love in the sharing. And it will dissipate and leave joy and love in its wake.

I have learned how very much I love my friends here.

I have learned that even in the very darkest of nights, love is truly waiting to bloom.