welcome Free Kittens... to a place of solace and safety and understanding and leaning and learning and lifting....

and I could go on and on... you'll find this forum busy and quite... depends on what is happening in our worlds... and you'll find that there are a lot of us who have been around for years...

You'll read all sorts of stories and learn you are not alone... life is a freaking roller coaster...

takes a lot of courage to be here... to reach out when you need help and to reach out when you feel you are needed by others...

Addy

G'day to you dear Free Kittens. Please do join us in the forum below when you feel you can.

Survivors of Suicide

Here is a post from Alffe long ago

Who are we? And why do we hang out here?

(((Thanks Addy)))

Welcome to NeuroTalk Free Kittens, it's good to have you with us although I'm sorry for the reasons which made you seek us out. As Addy said you'll find us a very understanding group and hopefully, an easy group to 'talk' to.

Do feel free to post to the link that Lara gave you, either by replying to any open thread, or by starting one yourself.

Welcome again Free Kittens.

Howdy all,

Thanks for the warm welcome. I'm catching up on posts as it's been awhile since I checked in.

I have to say that I am amazed at the warmth that is eminating from eveyone's posts here.

Wishing a Grand day to All
Free Kittens

Hello, I am very happy that I found this site.

I have come to terms with my story alone. My parents told me once that if they ever thought I would attempt anything they would "throw me in the mental ward". So I just never told them. When I was 14 I was...a teenager for lack of a better word and like most girls that age I fell madly in lust with a boy. This boy had cancer and had had it for a very long time. He told me he loved me and all that and then he started controling me. I failed classes (I was previously a straight A student) because he wouldn't let me go to them. He would hit me if I didn't listen. It was terrible. I told the principal multiple times he was hitting me and actually got the excuse "he has cancer what harm could he do" once.

Sophomore year he passed away and for some reason I cried. I had this feeling of being lost. He had told me every move to make, what was I supposed to do now? I don't know how it got to that point but I attempted suicide a few weeks after his death...I failed...thank God.

Today, I am going into my senior year of college. like I said I have come to terms with my story and have decided to go into Social Work in hopes of helping others through tragedies alike or differing from my own. I live in my little apartment with my boyfriend of 3 years. The only person I ever let get within a mile of me since that year. He knows all about it and he is wonderful. My life is wonderful and I am so glad I didnt accomplish taking my life those years ago.

Hi JDSS

I'm rather new here as well.

Isn't it wonderful to find someone (your boyfriend) who is worthy of you? He sounds wonderful.

A career in social work? Are you getting your BSW this year? Any plans on getting your MSW? I have my MSW, was in the field for over 20 years. My experiences are all too fresh for me to even think I might be able to practice again. Kudos to you...

...and a Grand Day
Free Kittens

Hi,
So great to see a survivors of suicide support group out here! I've never reached out to strangers before but, I feel like my concerns may be dissmissed by my family. 1-24-08 I lost my beautiful brother to suicide, hate saying these words.............. he cut his own throat. I have an almost unnatural fear of anything around my neck, sweaters, scarves, necklaces ect. Now I may need surgery on my neck to remove a cervical rib, im terrified. I know I will see him in my wound. Has anyone else lost someone to this method? I feel alone- I feel the stigma and people have the most horrible look on their faces when I confess his method. Trying to decide if I should talk to someone before surgery?

[I am so sorry that you lost your brother in that way. It must be very difficult to come to terms with that. I know how it must effect your own mental state. Please, do seek out help, from a councilor, or psychologist, if his death is preventing you from seeking the help with your own medical condition. I also want to tell you I have had several operations on my throat for Cervical fusion. The scars are not noticealbe, they blend in to the folds of your neck. You won't see it at all after awhile. Please take care of yourself. Again, I do understand how difficult the loss of your brother was. It is OK to tell people on this site how he passed away, nobody will think in a negative way anything you say. You will only find compassion and a group of people who will care about you. I wish you all the best with your medical condition. ginnie

I am really glad you found Neuro talk. There are alot of compassionate souls here that will offer support. I got through alot of tuff situations just by coming here to talk. ginnie

Thanks to the both of you for the welcome! I came in to neurtalk researching Cervical Rib resection and stumbled on this board, everything happens for a reason! I will sit down with a professional before my surgery to help me prepare for this wound. seems weird to say but, i know thats what I will be doing...Thanks again!