You tell Lil'Monkey I got her back. NO one better mess with my monkeys.

MrsD, she had a boy grab her rear, very sexually when she was in the 6th grade. She walked right out of class, straight to the Vice Principal's office. Just so happen..he is her Principal at the school she is in now.

A sexual harrassment charge was made against the boy. He was sent to an alternative school.

Natually after she reported the incedent, about a dozen girls came forward that he done other grabbings.

It changed the kids life. For the better. He is a great kid now. She's friends with him. He is the first to say her standing up to him changed him for the better. He got the help he needed to understand what he did was wrong and why.

<----monkey hands mistiis her cowboy hat.

Hopefully with her not being at school all day, outta sight, outta mind and some other drama has taken her place.

I'll tell her Shelley. I bet sending an puss oozing woman after these kids would scare the crap out of them.

Ayup they will love it...just like a horror movie...I can be their worst nightmare

I wish I had the right words to say here Curious, but I don't.

I was actually afraid when I first read what happened. I was thinking that first there's saliva in a drink.... next time it might be drugs. That worried me, so I'm glad that things have been sorted out.

Thank you for sharing the story about the boy who turned himself around! That was nice.

We personally think the boy who harassed our son went on to become a pedophile. He also had anti-social tendencies.
His parents were useless. My husband did that discussion because I was too emotional...and he said they were losers.
They were only interested in finding excuses for their son's behaviors.
(this is common trait in upscale neighborhoods unfortunately).
The major excuse they gave was that this boy had troubles because his older brother had ADHD! LIKE... so he didn't learn at home to be patient/tolerant ? Instead to attack? How does ADHD brother= grabbing the crotch of another student? The parents obviously were not dealing with the needs of their own children. And the school admin just said...this boy was in trouble ALL THE TIME. So our complaint was sort of the worst and final nail.

So my husband's take was the parents were losers! And they probably were. But they did understand the word POLICE. We said if their son did one more deed, the Police would take care of him from then on. Also they responded to LAWSUIT. So we know they had some understanding!

It would be encouraging to think our intervention changed this boy...but I don't think it did. He went on to drop out all together.
My son was terrified by this point, about making the complaint.
But he only suffered for about 2 weeks, the increased heckling from the other boys. Then he moved past it, and in the end it made him a stronger person.

Poor Lil'Monkey, as adults we know this kind of bullying exists, kids have had to deal with it for ever, but in todays world it tends to be more extreme. I personally think kids today are more vicious.

Lil'Monkey is a smart monkey.....she did the right thing and should be proud. These little pukes will move on to another victim soon......they tend to have the attention span of a gnat!

Hang in there Lil'Monkey!

Dottie

I just dropped her off at choir. She has it 2x today. 7am and then 2nd period. She wasn't to happy about going.

I think you are right Jaded. They have many more avenues to use their bullying. From mass texting to all the social networking sites. They can ruin a personas reputation in a matter of minutes.

I logged on to her facebook and myspace yesterday. I couldn't find where anything had been posted. I have a feeling that since the police are involved the girl won't do any of that, I'm just not sure about her friends. Also, not sure who Lil'Monkey had in common on her list.

We know many kids like that MrsD. Loser parents. The boy Lil'Monkey dealt with is a very good looking boy. I don't think he had been taught on how to be a gentleman. You like a girl..flirt..make eye contact..be nice..DO NOT TOUCH.

My husband and his workout partner, who's son has been Lil'Monkeys good friend since they were 5 , have a mentor program at the gym.

They have groups of boys with yep..loser parents, that they are teaching how to workout, but big time on the manners and respect. While working out they discuss work ethics, life stuff in general. These boys have 2 business men, who take care of their health, body builders, who don't use size to intimidate, to talk to, get guidence.

And these boys are Lil'Monkeys personal body guards.

She read all the replies last night. It made her feel so good that everyone cares so much. TY.

First of all, I think lil' monkey did the right thing. There is a difference between a snitch and someone who is doing the right thing. We tried to teach the grand moisses that when they were here and will keep on working on that. MAJOR difference: Snitch vs. Justice/right thing

so kudos to lil-monkey for having the COURAGE to step up. It is very hard to do the right thing sometimes. LOTS OF Cajones (excuse the language, but it's true).

What I worry about bullying these days is not just the physical bullying but what one can do on the internet. IF these gangs of girls decided to twitter/my space/face book lil-monkey and defame/degrade her in anyway, tell her to not to get upset about it and report it asap.

It's a long way from being thrown rocks at on the railroad tracks where my brother and I were teased on our way home walking on the railroad tracks and having rocks thrown at us for being "different" especially with me and my tics. My brother suffered a lot because of me...

sometimes, depending on the bully, it is to confront them and kill them with your kindness. But that doesn't always work. But glad to see and know that lil-monkey has a net of support group and network of friends...stick to your true friends, lil-one and you'll be OK...and that your parents support you, that is what is important

in this case, you can also think of the bullying girl, that her parents probably doesn't care about her and are probably bullies themselves and that she was probably bullied at home by her parents of her siblings and that she can only redirect that by bullying others...not that it makes it right but hopefully will bring you some solace. (It is NOT your job to change her, though. So don't feel bad in that respect. But if the opportunity does arise, it wouldn't surprise me, lil-one that you would be the first to accept her and be there for her...just my instinct as your uncle moikey. )

of course, you've got the cowboy hat riding sistas in this here them forum that I, myself, wouldn't dare mess with as well as a pus eyed aunt that will come scare them to kingdom come (or burger king...LOL)

and be true to yourself, lil-monkey. I am so proud of you for doing the right thing...I would've been scared at your age. Not sure what I'd done back then. Now, I would, but not sure back then, so once again. I am just very in awe of how brave you are.

As for the choir director going. I am not sure if that's a plus or negative. You could end up with someone worse. And it takes time to adjust and for some people to wake up and care, kinda like Mr. Holland (Opus)

I think if you are truly passionate about it, stick with it. If not, I don't think it'll hurt you for not participating in choirs anymore. There are other ways to participate in choirs. Local plays, churches, even amateur choirs could be something to look into with your already very busy schedule...

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the case about that boy that committed suicide...I cried a bucket of tears when I saw the news and my heart ached for him...

WE MUST COME UP WITH NEW WAYS TO DEAL WITH BULLYING in our schools...we MUST...

there always are a lot of talks but there have to be ways....

I am not sure ISS works a lot of the times. I've seen bullies gotten worse. Not saying it doesn't work for some of the bully wanna be's...but the true bullies..those that don't have anything to lose...they are the ones that need to be dealt with in another way...

we have too little alternative schools to send all the bullies to and there is another issue...

the bullies' parents...I find them to usually be bullies themselves...

how do we solve this problem so these bullies don't create future bullying...

how do we teach our kids to NOT call other kids names because they are different???

It bugs heckit out of me now that we are going to have KIDS...

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to all that have been bullied before...

that's why I took up weight lifting and martial arts...LOLOL

Hubby just went up to the school. The girl is there.

Lil'Monkey just texted me from a friends phone all upset.

I am really ticked. We were told she was not and wouldn't be on campus.

That stinks!!!