((((David)))), I am grateful for your courage and honesty in sharing. I hope life gets easier for you soon.

Thankfully, the seasons of life do change...maybe not entirely... but enough to allow us a breath of fresh air ... to show us new glimmers of hope... and new (sometimes re-newed) viewpoints and new resolutions.

Life is full of ongoing "fall out." I used to wonder when the fall out would stop... so I could get on with life. One day, I'd realized this is life... this is a major challenge in life...how to cope with the ongoing fall out? How to live with it? How to truly live, despite it?

How do we find peace and happiness in the midst of the chronic fall out?
How do we experience joy, despite co-existing grief and sadness?

This can be done. We can achieve this. Finding our own answers, our own "balance" takes tremendous, ongoing commitment.

We can share some experiences and some insights with one another..and we can encourage one another... as we walk beside one another. Yet, this remains, very much, an inside job!

Once we understand, and accept, the truth that life will be full of ongoing fall out, then we can start to work on how to live a full life despite all of the fall out. As long as there is life... "fallout will keep falling" and "stress will keep on dripping."

Once we fully accept this, we realize the importance of transforming our thoughts, our perceptions, our beliefs...which, in turn, transforms our experiences... and transforms our relationships with ourselves and with others... one by one... until, one day, we realize our daily lives have truly become transformed.

Never can we totally rest upon the "transformational work" we have done in the past... it is a commitment we must maintain...every moment of every day. When we drop our commitment to ongoing transformation (consciously or not), we must simply decide to forgive ourselves and...get back to the business of "transformation" and growth, allowing us to live life to its fullest!

So much easier written about than done, for sure!
However, it is possible!

David, you have done a tremendous amount of work in your own life!
I have faith in your ability to overcome in every circumstance.
I have a deep respect for you and am grateful to have crossed your path! You and yours remian in my thoughts and prayers.

((David)), please forgive me... my reply was not so "balanced." I'd forgotten to mention the need to give ourselves permission to rest.

Sometimes we simply need to rest and/or to set up a healthy way to give ourselves and our loved ones a much-needed break!
We need to remember to replenish our energy.

You care deeply! You give so much!
I pray you will be able to allow yourself to rest and to recharge.

This is my hope for everyone participating in the forums.
May we allow ourselves to rest and to recharge?

my dear DejaVu..............your post was perfectly balanced


I made the thread ........in an attempt to say that ..............there are times .............moments...................that allow us to cry in a port-hole.........a small window of oppotunity..............when grief /sadness /tears are open and around us......................and in a way givining....permission to openly show emotion....[most people watching see the event.............not that cause of the true tears]

yesterday i took an oppotunity to shed tears............for memories...a life past........and a hope for a better tomorrow.............

When the saddest of times happens again.......i ....advocvate to all............unload a little of the grief...you carry...and are unable to unload....

David

ps Alffe.................Fathers day has little or no meaning too me.................though this year i spent a lot of money on my boys..............which helped tremendously.....[maybe fathers day can become their second xmas...then i dont look at the date so much...............]

pssst David...not sure I believe you about Fathers Day but I love you anyway.

And I can cry at the drop of a hat...old women are incapable of controling those tears....glad you got the opportunity to "unload some".